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How you are treated by your children, when the roles are reversed, I'd like to believe, is directly dependent on how you treated them from 0-18yrs. |
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I think the same way about my ex now.. but she was just a pair of tits and a wet hole now. See the harsh reality, or live it everyday. |
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Sorry, Douche. I couldn't help it.. perhaps you can tell me why I have a need to put down others in such a way? Yes, that underlined part really offends me. Don't assume everyone is as shitty or crappy as you are. There are people who actually hold themselves to a standard, have expectations of themselves. |
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And when I'm joking you're the one who thinks I'm a douche. So the free advice is to you to look into why words written by a stranger offend you. |
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05-19-2015, 10:27 PM | #96 | |
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Practically, your thoughts should consider: 1. What do you want actually want to do, see the car or see the baby? 2. Okay, you have some fucked up values .. 3. have existential crisis... 4. I lied Guess there is no point in saying "J/K".. congrats on the baby, and the car too. |
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I am offended just talking to you, as I fear your shittiness will smudge off on me. So for me, I guess excellence = survival. Thanks douche, you're a good counselor.. or I am an excellent patient. btw. I can work with you through your issues too if you'd like, don't be shy. |
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(Mia, my cat, is 11. I hope she lives forever, can't stand the thought of her dying at even 18-20...) |
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Children dying before their parents are the exception, not the rule, especially in this day and age of ever-increasing advances in medical science.
Having said that, I'd agree that anyone who thinks having a child effectively creates a "GUARANTEE" that they will be taken care of themselves in their golden years is sadly ignorant. The wife of a good buddy has spent her entire career working in seniors facilities. She can tell you from plenty of first hand evidence that having kids does not even guarantee regular visitors in the best of times, let alone someone to be there 24x7 if things unravel near the end. LOTS of seniors (not just an unfortunate 5% or something) go weeks or months or more with no familial visitors, and it's not as if they didnt have kids. (It must be pointed out that the people currently 80+ in these facilities came from a generation where having kids was expected; choosing to remain childless far less common in the 60's.) Maybe the kids have moved away, maybe they dont have a close relationship with the parents, maybe the kids have died (she seems to think that's the least prevalent of all the causes). Having kids cause you want them is great. Having kids cause you want to breed your own hospice worker to change your Depends when you are 85 is a really bad idea. If you want a "Guarantee", then go buy a toaster.
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Hmmm, I wouldn't go with a toaster. Someone on here just had theirs almost ignite their house. I'd say that's a terrible guarantee, unless you spend extra on the extended warranty. If anything, buy a set of golf clubs, guaranteed to last.
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These are personal questions that I wouldn't bother asking in most any other circumstances but you don't seem to mind getting all personal. EDIT: Just read the circumstances. Hard to have much pity for you. You knew what you were getting into when you decided to try to have a kid with this guy who's twice your age. The inability (or woeful ignorance) to see the warning signs and the actions that result from that have their consequences. Only unfortunate thing in this instance is that you decided to learn this lesson the hard way. Anyone viewing this situation with a clear head and from a third person perspective could've told you that there's really no scenario where this whole pregnancy thing would've ended favorably for either you or him. OP, take the trip to get your M3 if you want. Just be prepared to sleep in your car for the foreseeable future upon your return. You can get an M3 whenever you want, a child birth isn't something you experience often. |
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Never even heard of a movie called Crash, let a lone seen it. Those outcomes are based on real world experience, not movie fantasy. And my posts, specifically portions directed towards Sara are not a response to her single quoted post. It's a response to her view on this subject based on many posts she's made over the years. Sara's a fine human being and she'll likely raise anther fine human. And at no point did i tell her these things are going to happen to her. Nor did i walk up to her on the street or just send a random PM of that post. It was in response to her saying a bunch of stuff that is a fallacy for a LARGE portion of our society. I've had a dog with cancer, thankfully developed in his twilight years. My current dog developed cataracts at 8 months old and is now nearly blind. I'm aware of the unexpected circumstances life brings with it. I'm guessing that no one feels the need to tell me about the possibility of my dog getting cancer because i'm not guaranteeing anything about his lifespan. No where did i tell her it was going to get worse. And what hell has she gone though? All i said was what Al said below but without the sugar coating. Sometimes, the sugar prevents the message from getting through. Children dying before their parents being the exception should be just as obvious to everyone as the fact that there is no guarantee that your child will be taking care of you while you're in hospice. I know a lot of people who have great relationships with there parents, but even for some of them, because of their career/location, will likely not be able to be at their parents side while in hospice. You want to see a harsh reality, go talk to ALF or Hospice workers and ask them about average visitation frequency. My in-laws are about as family oriented as you can get. Both of my wife's grandparents who were alive when we met, died in and ALF, 1000 miles from family, alone. In the 13 years i've known my wife, both grandparents were visited by their kids, (wife's parents) no more than 3 times each before they died. 3 times in 13 years by people who always have and still do preach family, family, family. It wasn't for lack of desire either, it was because of circumstance. And this story isn't the exception; to varying degrees, it's the norm. Quote:
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You just don't say those things to a new mother. I stand behind my post.
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I think it needed to be said regardless of the new mom aspect. Sometimes people need a reality check, but that is difficult in this country with all of the sugar coating and political correctness people insist on. You have to take off the rose-colored glasses now and then because life is not all candy canes and rainbows.
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Soooooooo how 'bout the Heat getting 10th spot?
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Usually, at least in my experience, we aren't all standing around in a circle crying and holding hands, but that's because everyone involved has come to terms that someone is about to pass and that they've lived a long life. I haven't had to deal with a sudden, unexpected death in the family so I can't speak for that, but when it's expected it's a bit different. Sometimes we're a bit relieved since it's painful watching someone who's old that you knew slowly lose themselves to some sort of disease and merely becoming a shell of what they once were. |
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