Help me on breaking up

[Whostheboss]

Originally Posted by David0ff

Figured it was about time lol


In any case,

Hope the OP gets to move on, always tough when you get your heart involved and trampled,

Been there done that,

Now I only get my penis involved,

You live, you learn, you get beat, you get up, have a cigarette or 2 and move forward

Respect!

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by C5driver

I'm going to assume that in polite conversation, your wife and friends would understand the sarcastic streak that I missed here.

Yeah - anyone who knows me would totally know that is 100% sarcasm. Those double standards come from extensive social programming that usually starts with questionable parenting, is reinforced with horrendous television and media standards and then, to cap off the trifecta, is reinforced again by teenage school groups. The very distant evolutionary need for men to "sow their seed" as far and wide as possible to ensure progression of their gene, is buried so deeply in our reptilian brain, that using it as an excuse for deplorable behavior is utterly weak. So... yeah... sarcasm.

Edit: And by "deplorable behavior", I don't mean sleeping around... to each their own. I mean applying the double standard to it.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by David0ff

Figured it was about time lol


In any case,

Hope the OP gets to move on, always tough when you get your heart involved and trampled,

Been there done that,

Now I only get my penis involved,

You live, you learn, you get beat, you get up, have a cigarette or 2 and move forward

Cheating is not cool from either sex, it is the worse shit ever, I never cheat, never will

If you cheat for whatever reason, asides from being cheated on, you are a scumbag and a pussy.

This.

I wonder if OP's GF was unfulfilled, to a degree. OP, are you certain that you were pleasing her orally?

[BuzzE46]

I was in the same similar situation. I dated a girl for 1.5 years loved her and we broke up and she gave a lot of headaches. I was blinded by love. your in the same shoes me. I was depressed on and off for a year went literally nuts and was traumatized after we talked about marriage and all that. I began to workout and box again and stayed around the people who loved and appreciate me,.
I prayed to God every night and was so upset. not too long ago me and my best friend started to date. shes now my girlfriend and is the best thing that happened. I now know why God did what he had to do,
to lead me to better love and the right person. I never been happier. I will guarantee that this time in your life will be hard my friend but deff keep your head up. you can move on and do better it may seem like a long shot at the moment but trust me it will ge better. I know for a fact you will get someone better. If this girl loved you,truly loved you, she would never have cheated on you... this on and off thing is mickey mouse stuff and wil eventually lead to bigger problems.. focus on you and focus on whats important to you. the best has yet to come! keep your head up and goodluck brotha


-Andrew

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Yeah - anyone who knows me would totally know that is 100% sarcasm. Those double standards come from extensive social programming that usually starts with questionable parenting, is reinforced with horrendous television and media standards and then, to cap off the trifecta, is reinforced again by teenage school groups.

There's always the possibility that a guy like you would be a mouth breathing knuckle dragger, but based on what I've seen, the probability was higher that you weren't. You didn't disappoint

[Sara]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Get it right Sara. This type of behavior makes a man cool and manly - it makes a woman nasty and gross. Sheesh. You need more social programming. Go watch some more 70s/80s TV shows.

If STD's are your thing then okay, more power to you boys.

[UncleWede]

OP,

WHEN (not if) you get into another relationship, DO NOT compare the two. Pay attention, but don't expect that if the new girl talks to other guys, that she is sleeping with them.

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by smoosh

It's killing me.

Last post to you. Someone smarter and more respected than us said this...

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

The more you point your finger at her and the more you listen to enablers telling you this, the further you are from understanding that you're the one to blame...not her. You let it happen. She didn't make you do shit.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

OP,

WHEN (not if) you get into another relationship, DO NOT compare the two. Pay attention, but don't expect that if the new girl talks to other guys, that she is sleeping with them.

Yeah, heading into a relationship with predetermined notions is bad news. You'll continue to torment yourself, as well as the new lady in your life. And honestly, no one should be subjected to that.


It's such a bad cliché that communication leads to the demise of most relationships, but it's true. That's why I've found it much easier to be an asshole, until I find a woman worth obtaining my true attention. Take this as a lesson that if she acts like a slut, she probably is one.


Most women aren't worth it dude. Do your due diligence and play the field until you can find one that captivates you. Of course this is not an overnight process.

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by C5driver

There's always the possibility that a guy like you would be a mouth breathing knuckle dragger, but based on what I've seen, the probability was higher that you weren't. You didn't disappoint

It never actually occurred to me that someone could form an opinion about me based on the premise that the things I write are serious. That is a horrifying proposition. I may have to end my longstanding emoticon (sorry, I mean emoji) boycott to use the little winking dude on 94% of everything I say...

(Also, thanks for giving me the benefit of the doubt)

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by Sara504

If STD's are your thing then okay, more power to you boys.

They aren't called STD's anymore.... I cannot remember what it is, but they have a new name for diseases that are transmitted by... you know... sex.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

It never actually occurred to me that someone could form an opinion about me based on the premise that the things I write are serious. That is a horrifying proposition. I may have to end my longstanding emoticon (sorry, I mean emoji) boycott to use the little winking dude on 94% of everything I say...

LOL, welcome to the internet, where everyone is who they say they are.

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

It never actually occurred to me that someone could form an opinion about me based on the premise that the things I write are serious.

Meh...we all judge and form opinions

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by Verbiage

LOL, welcome to the internet, where everyone is who they say they are.

Except for the guy who knows his VCs...

[swagon]

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by C5driver

Except for the guy who knows his VCs...

Oh my goodness... maybe it is unconscious bias! Even my go-to watch brand has their major product line called... "Patrimony". I am secretly a shill for patriarchal autocracy and I didn't even know it. At least this brings us back on topic, because I now feel like I have allowed myself to be used and abused.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by C5driver

Except for the guy who knows his VCs...

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Oh my goodness... maybe it is unconscious bias! Even my go-to watch brand has their major product line called... "Patrimony". I am secretly a shill for patriarchal autocracy and I didn't even know it. At least this brings us back on topic, because I now feel like I have allowed myself to be used and abused.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

They aren't called STD's anymore.... I cannot remember what it is, but they have a new name for diseases that are transmitted by... you know... sex.

Sorry, havent had sex in forever. Im not up to date on anything anymore.


What the hell are they called now? Giveaways?

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Oh my goodness... maybe it is unconscious bias! Even my go-to watch brand has their major product line called... "Patrimony". I am secretly a shill for patriarchal autocracy and I didn't even know it. At least this brings us back on topic, because I now feel like I have allowed myself to be used and abused.

My go-to, everyday brand is Rolex...you know, the one you said was beneath you and de rigueur for Poserville, so what the hell does that say about me?

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

They aren't called STD's anymore.... I cannot remember what it is, but they have a new name for diseases that are transmitted by... you know... sex.

Originally Posted by Sara504

Sorry, havent had sex in forever. Im not up to date on anything anymore.


What the hell are they called now? Giveaways?

Bruh, you forgot the winking emoticon again. You know you have to include that for the purposes of mutually ambiguous sarcasm.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by smoosh

don't buy the next one expensive shoes 2 months into dating? haha



Thanks for the advice, going on a date this wednesday

just hope I can focus enough to have a normal conversation haha



definitely needed that, thank you hahah

I guess it's just hard to let someone who's been there with you through a lot of shit go easily. But things are feeling a lot better, trying to stay away from my phone when possible.

I spoke with her 2 days after we broke up, and she said, "I'm having such a good time going on dates!" the day after she went on a date with a dude she monkey-branched off of me from.

blocked that beetch on social media, phone, etc. Not a single contact since then, no plan on it in the future.

like I said, got a date coming up on Wednesday [average looking chick], but hope I can really focus.

I know it gets worse before it gets better...man, it is horrible, though.

Baby, you can buy me shoes. But I require Valentino. XOXO MUAH

[C5driver]

Originally Posted by Sara504

What the hell are they called now? Giveaways?

Forever cuddles