is alcohol the only answer for losers?

[BMWM3DREAM]

i am a loser not to be funny or say anything weird and I dont have any answers I mean if people would now things about me theyd laugh. I cant get any chicks so I gained about 100 lbs and dont know what to do. I am pretty good looking so I decided to gain weight and avoid girls because I know they would nt like me. So now I drink dont go to school and have been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and depression biut i d ont really believe I am imbalanced i dont go to school or work and am a pathetic loser and i try to drink and sh(t i dont know whats left im not a real man by any standards haveany of you been in a situation like this right now im drink iing and am thinking whats left of me? Im really f(((ed any help would be greatly appreciated

[AW_M3]

first you said you cant get chicks, then u said u r good lookin but once u get a girl she would hate u.. so find out why they hate u and fix it!

[BMWM3DREAM]

I can't get with girls because I have a lot of problems and my body is somewhat deformed. So, I just kept my distance and do not go out much. I'm also poorly endowed and since this is a anonymous discussion board, I feel as if I can be somewhat free to talk about it. The people I used to talk to always used to say to me, "You're a good looking guy, why don't you get with girls, are you gay?" I don't know what to do but this level of patheticism is going to proabably reach a bad ending. To make matters worse, I have gynecomastia. Please don't make fun, this is pretty serious--if you want to go ahead, but if you just want to be like other people, take your shots at me, I have been through more torment and can handle anonymous people dissing me.

[Holden_Caulfield04]

Rule No.1

Don't post a personal thread while drinking/drunk. It can only end badly...

[PLAYON]

LMAO

this can't be real. . .


but if it is. . .keep your head up OP. . .good things to come, it's a new year.

[leon]

lifes a bitch.

[BMWM3DREAM]

yeah it is, especially when you become self-destructive in ways you did not think were possible.

[PLAYON]

Originally Posted by Bmoney2K4

yeah it is, especially when you become self-destructive in ways you did not think were possible.

? elaborate. . .

[BMWM3DREAM]

theres so much put gaining an enormous amount of weight just to begin with, really killing yourself with stress, just so much being dumb and setting yourself up for failure because you know you would not be accepted in society.

[BMWM3DREAM]

drinking in the morning, gambling big time

[BrianDesigns]

Decide what you want in life and work non-stop for it. The harder it is for you the sweeter it will be when you succeed. Your problems are there so you don't get bored.

[BMWM3DREAM]

meanwhile, how do I deal with the ridicule I will inevitably receive?

[F104]

Get real, get a life, and change the 5 for a 3 :-)

Seriously, life can't be that miserably if you can afford a 5 series. And by the count of dropping knickers avators , and others, there are not too many lady drivers on here either :-(

[BMWM3DREAM]

i didnt buy the 5 series or 3 series, i borrow my dads 5 series from time to time.

[BMWM3DREAM]

i dont have any money, parents paid

[TofuTurkey]

Originally Posted by Bmoney2K4

i am a loser not to be funny or say anything weird and I dont have any answers I mean if people would now things about me theyd laugh.

Most important: learn to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, it's hard to expect others to love you, or you to love them. But don't become a narcissist. What do you like doing (the non-self harming kind of things)? Find a couple of days, go enjoy yourself.

2. Why do you care what others say about you? Do they know everything about you? Have they spent huge amounts of time and effort into helping you become a better person? If they just stand by the side and laugh, really, why do you want their opinion? I would sieve out those who truly care, listen to what they say, and if I decide it makes sense, then I will accept their words.

3. There are many different points of view, some see things the way you do, some don't. It doesn't mean that those who don't are against you, they can be, say, under peer pressure (to look cool in front of their friends they do certain things). I would find those who think the way I do, and hang around them. Find my own happiness.

4. There's no need to get lots of chicks, you need just one, one who truly cares about you. If she can't see past your appearance, then she's not the one anyway.

[truong321]

Originally Posted by TofuTurkey

Most important: learn to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, it's hard to expect others to love you, or you to love them. But don't become a narcissist. What do you like doing (the non-self harming kind of things)? Find a couple of days, go enjoy yourself.

2. Why do you care what others say about you? Do they know everything about you? Have they spent huge amounts of time and effort into helping you become a better person? If they just stand by the side and laugh, really, why do you want their opinion? I would sieve out those who truly care, listen to what they say, and if I decide it makes sense, then I will accept their words.

3. There are many different points of view, some see things the way you do, some don't. It doesn't mean that those who don't are against you, they can be, say, under peer pressure (to look cool in front of their friends they do certain things). I would find those who think the way I do, and hang around them. Find my own happiness.

4. There's no need to get lots of chicks, you need just one, one who truly cares about you. If she can't see past your appearance, then she's not the one anyway.

+1

it's great strangers are helping out this guy.
i can personally take in some of the advice myself haha

[BrianDesigns]

Originally Posted by Bmoney2K4

meanwhile, how do I deal with the ridicule I will inevitably receive?

Like you said, its inevitable. You can use them in your advantage. Instead of accepting it. You can use it to light a fire under your ass and work harder towards the state you imagine being.

[///Mandy]

Wait a minute, when did Spool post last? lol jk

OP, sounds like you have alot on your plate.
You shouldn't rely on alcohol, or get into the habit of relying on alcohol to relieve what you are feeling about yourself.
Take some time to do some soul searching, if you think you gained weight, do some physical activity like go to the gym, go for a walk in a park after dinner. With you gaining weight, you are just putting yourself more into the depression cycle.

Okay, enough of my Dr. Phil moment, this might be a joke. lol

[kabalm18]

The Colts just lost! I will be relying on alcohol until next season then I will drink beer during the games! We are in the same boat my small peckered friend!

[BMWM3DREAM]

not a joke, we're all adults now and life is too short about joking about things of this magnitude

[///Mandy]

Originally Posted by Bmoney2K4

not a joke, we're all adults now and life is too short about joking about things of this magnitude

Agree'd. My reasoning was because I know enough of what goes on in OT, so I just assumed it was.

You need to take the next step forward, start doing things that will make you feel better. Like I had mentioned before, you feel that you gained weight, go to the gym, do something that will make you feel more confident and happy about yourself.