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10-16-2020, 05:56 PM | #7395 |
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Back when I was in college, a tractor-trailer loaded with beer was stolen from the local distributor's warehouse yard in the middle of the night.
My physics lab partner lived on a farm with plenty of room to hide a truck, drove the farm's tractor-trailers around the fields since he was old enough to see over the dashboard, and, umm, had a taste for beer. I jokingly asked him where he put the stolen truck in lab the next week. His answer was that if he had a truck full of beer at his disposal that he most certainly would *not* be in class for a month or so. FYI, the missing truck was never found.....
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10-18-2020, 06:46 PM | #7396 |
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Well these days it's sexual abuse to even think of asking a girl to go for a drink
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10-19-2020, 11:46 AM | #7397 |
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So your last post is now 6 days away, did you got laid since and since you are no longer single...ey?
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10-19-2020, 03:26 PM | #7398 |
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Nope, I am still a taken man. I don't find it right to see other people when I'm in a relationship - she's 2000 miles away if I wanted to I feel like I could've easily, I just don't like that.
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Oh, I wouldnt insist into your private life, please take my apoligies for that.
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10-24-2020, 04:34 PM | #7401 |
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"Trust, but check."
I have no way of 100% knowing, valid point, but I don't see it as a thing she'd do. Plus, if she does - that's on her. I said what I said because I personally don't feel right doing it. If she finds it okay, she can handle her issues on her own. But I won't stick around for that. |
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11-15-2020, 04:03 PM | #7402 |
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No stitches? No plaster? No gunfire? No argument.
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Through the '80s (when I was in my 20's) my 5 or 6 closest friends (all motorheads) and I were intensely competitive and career-focused and mutually supportive; we inadvertently became a "boys' club" where, without any official declaration or fanfare, we all gravitated toward focusing on our careers and "doing guy stuff" and tacitly acknowledged that we weren't going to see much action on the dating front. One of the gang went through med school and his surgical residency and has a successful general surgery practice. Another guy and his brother set up a tire wholesale business. I took on a pivotal role in my family business. Three of us bought a cast-off dragster on a lark and campaigned it on the NHRA circuit to mixed results and a bunch of stories. We spent countless hours being guys together; talking smack, bench racing, wrenching on cars, getting in heated discussions that sometimes turned to fisticuffs, drinking oceans of booze, and creating mayhem whenever/wherever we got the urge (Edgar Winter, Green Pyramid, 50 rounds of .357 ammo, and a school bus; that's all I'll say). Those guys are on speed-dial to this day; one particular member and I have been each others' best men at our weddings. Flash forward several years; I went through a disastrous breakup in '93 and decided that I'd had enough of the romantic chase for a while and that I'd try chasing a better version of myself instead. I poured myself into cycling and through that had an athletic renaissance that was really rewarding. I made a whole new set of lifelong friends and gained a lot of confidence in my ability to suffer, compete, and transcend. Were there times in any of this where I found myself wishing that I had a girlfriend? Sure. Fuck yeah. But in most of those moments, I looked at the freedom I'd had and all the stories I'd gathered and the camaraderie I'd enjoyed and it seemed like a pretty good deal all-round. Still does.
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If you make a good egg dish for a girl or some steam some crab (buy at 99ranch). She will love you. Im TELLIN Yah
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12-13-2020, 01:23 AM | #7406 |
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Thinking of dating my wife again. Usually we'd have date night once a month. Watch a movie. Pop corn. To be honest it's starting to feel the same. We used to go places. Do things. Yesterday I took her to the mall. Bought her some new sketchers and she was happy. Something we haven't done in years. Both of us were thinking it was good to mix it up. She enjoyed it. Now I'm thinking about what else we can do other than beach walks. More dates.
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I'm in Cali, there isn't much opportunity for a date right now.
Last night, I drove my wife over to her aunt's house, so we could inspect the plumbing work we are paying for while the aunt is recuperating from a broken hip in a rest home. |
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12-15-2020, 09:55 AM | #7409 |
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Shit, at this point I'd be happy just to be able to have a conversation with the girlfriend that doesn't end an argument. We have entered troubled waters and trying to fix things. Advise is, as always, appreciated.
Back story, everything was great until last weekend. We ran into some issues that weren't really issues, but the handling of said non-issues created massive issues. As of now, we officially broke up last Sunday. We have talked and drove each other insane for over a week now. It's crazy how quickly shit gets out of hand, over nothing. |
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You haven't stated whether you miss her and want to make a go of things. Do you? Did you enjoy her company? Did she make you a better person? Relationships are hard: Don't lose yourself in it though. Women come and go (or men for some). Take some headspace. Reflect on it. Pray on it if that's your thing. Give her some space. If you miss her send her some flowers. She might come back. She might not. Accept whatever happens and flow with it. Relationships are shit if you have to force them. That's a relationshit! Take some time out for yourself. Here's hoping you get some makeup sex and if not then hey I heard Santa has three ho's! |
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I too prefer to deal with the issue that night, though I've learned that this will almost never happen. Seems to need to "season" for a few days, then we discuss. And by discuss, I don't always mean calmly. I've also learned that when I bring up a perceived slight that bothered me, there was something I did before that which caused her to act the way she did...so there is little point in bringing up issues unless I wish to engage in a fight. Which, sometimes, I do. Because ultimately, behaviour does change, to some degree. Its just I have to go through the fight first. Which I don't enjoy. I don't know - good luck, I hope she is able to recognize how important this is to you, but since I'm somewhat in the same boat and been beating my head against a wall it feels like, I'm not overly hopeful. You find something that works, do let me know! |
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