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It might be worth a few visits with a professional relationship counselor.
Disclaimer - I've been happily married for 16 years without one argument, so I have zero experience in this area.....
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......and wow. I'm beyond impressed with the length of relationship to argument ratio. Truly a rarity. My hats off to both of you. Last edited by King Rudi; 10-08-2020 at 08:01 AM.. |
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As an example, I used to really enjoy gambling. My wife (at that time g/f), hated it and hated that I did it. And as an ultimatum, said I had to be prepared to give it up for her and we did break up for a month to think through things. I thought about it and realized that while I really enjoyed it, it wasn't a pillar or anything like that, and agreed to do so. On her end, once in a blue moon I might get to visit a casino with a set amount, say once every couple years or something, and she's ok with it. And honestly, I don't even really care anymore. She doesn't mind me having a poker night every couple months with some guys and for me, I enjoy that more than going to a casino anyways. I don't know if you guys drink, but I wouldn't have anything to drink while having this discussion. This stuff is serious, you don't need anything potentially removing inhibitions, you need a clear head and be able to examine this analytically. That might sound cold, but the feelings are already there...you need to focus on what you both are hearing and how you feel about that. You already know you care for each other. So I think this is a good idea overall. I think it will give closure either way. But communication is so important, so good on you both for taking this step. Quote:
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So the key takeaway here is that it isn't a sexually intimate relationship with Jody that you'd find repulsive, it would be his use of Microsoft Teams...did I understand that correctly?
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I didn't read between the lines this time. Aw shucks, CT... |
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A relationship is about love, respect and commitment. good luck i wish you guys can work it out. |
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Joking aside, a Zoom or Teams with you guys while I'm at work would be pretty badass. |
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I am of the herding cats management philosophy in every thing that I do. Give them the freedom to choose their own paths, and gently give them a nudge away from danger if I am concerned that they might fall off the proverbial cliff. Explain why you are concerned, but always let them make their own decisions. When I brought her out to meet my racing buddies when we first met, she was crawling under my car in the paddock to pry a pebble out of a brake rotor. The guy who wound up being the best man at our wedding pulled me aside, to ask if she had a sister? She was a professional mechanic, and I am grateful every single day to have married the ultimate unicorn.....
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@King Rudi haven't been on in a few days and didn't want to leave you hanging. Never do I ever want a guy to send me a dick pic. I wouldn't ask either. You can have the best looking dick in the world but if you don't know how to use it, I don't care how good it looks. Just my 2 cents!
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what's going on here?
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I'm wondering the same thing? Sounds like a Dr. Ruth session.
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Does anyone know what Dr. Ruth's favorite word in the English language is?????
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To this day I don't know what the follow-up question/suggestion was but it began, "Once you do that...", and mercifully the channel changed.
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I would ask if y'all even live together, but shit even if you don't.... people do still argue. I'm amazed. |
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I have a couple of young millennial friends... all I got to say is glad I'm married and will do just about anything possible to stay married cause I'm way to scared of being single in today's environment...
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