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      04-27-2019, 04:11 AM   #23
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You know.....thinking about this more and just in general.

I would actually talk to more people, but as it stands right now and for as long as I can remember......The only time I hear from most anyone that I don't see on a daily basis is because of something they need help with.

Example.....this morning I get up, and I have 3 text messages from 3 different people....one of whom is my brother....and they are all asking about a solution to a problem.

My niece just gave birth to my brother's grandkid last week.....and it was "crickets" with my phone. But I wake up this morning to an Electrical question about wiring up a stupid hot tub.

It's the story of my life. I'm only contacted or approached if someone has an Electrical, Computer, or Automotive question.....or any issue for that matter. I'm not Webster or Google!!

My wife can ask me....have you heard from "so and so" lately? And I say no....and she will say I guess they don't need anything. And if I say yes....she will be like "what do they need help with"?
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You know.....thinking about this more and just in general.

I would actually talk to more people, but as it stands right now and for as long as I can remember......The only time I hear from most anyone that I don't see on a daily basis is because of something they need help with.

Example.....this morning I get up, and I have 3 text messages from 3 different people....one of whom is my brother....and they are all asking about a solution to a problem.

My niece just gave birth to my brother's grandkid last week.....and it was "crickets" with my phone. But I wake up this morning to an Electrical question about wiring up a stupid hot tub.

It's the story of my life. I'm only contacted or approached if someone has an Electrical, Computer, or Automotive question.....or any issue for that matter. I'm not Webster or Google!!

My wife can ask me....have you heard from "so and so" lately? And I say no....and she will say I guess they don't need anything. And if I say yes....she will be like "what do they need help with"?
I got a bit fed up of that. At one point I was really used. Fixing things for people. Giving them advice. I am glad my friends that I have at the moment are people you can pick up with where you left off. If one is quiet for a month or even if we meet once a year we're still on good terms. Now I am more selfish with my time and don't do much for others. It feels good to put me first rather than have fake friends. Don't get me wrong if someone was really stuck and desperate for my help then I would but I don't exactly volunteer these days either.
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      04-27-2019, 05:18 AM   #25
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I got a bit fed up of that. At one point I was really used. Fixing things for people. Giving them advice. I am glad my friends that I have at the moment are people you can pick up with where you left off. If one is quiet for a month or even if we meet once a year we're still on good terms. Now I am more selfish with my time and don't do much for others. It feels good to put me first rather than have fake friends. Don't get me wrong if someone was really stuck and desperate for my help then I would but I don't exactly volunteer these days either.

Same here....I have always been that person that found it hard to say no if someone genuinely needed help.

I just hate to see good people get taken advantage of. But now......I am resentful because I realize that I am one of those being taken advantage of!
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I am coming up to my 15 year anniversary this year and ain't a woman on Earth who can take my wife's place.

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You should at least hear her out... she could be looking for a good stuffing.


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I always come here to find people i dont wanna deal with. Get my fill of annoyance then move on.
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I always come here to find people i dont wanna deal with. Get my fill of annoyance then move on.
Yeah but I'm not *always* on here so my heartfelt apologies for those days where you have to look harder than usual...
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You know.....thinking about this more and just in general.

I would actually talk to more people, but as it stands right now and for as long as I can remember......The only time I hear from most anyone that I don't see on a daily basis is because of something they need help with.

Example.....this morning I get up, and I have 3 text messages from 3 different people....one of whom is my brother....and they are all asking about a solution to a problem.

My niece just gave birth to my brother's grandkid last week.....and it was "crickets" with my phone. But I wake up this morning to an Electrical question about wiring up a stupid hot tub.

It's the story of my life. I'm only contacted or approached if someone has an Electrical, Computer, or Automotive question.....or any issue for that matter. I'm not Webster or Google!!

My wife can ask me....have you heard from "so and so" lately? And I say no....and she will say I guess they don't need anything. And if I say yes....she will be like "what do they need help with"?
This! Not so long ago, my house was "The Spot" after work. A handful of friends would come over for after work debauchery. Essentially, whiskey, cigars, cigarettes, bitching about our day - co-workers, employees, customers and giving each other a hard time until eventually someone's (usually the female of the group) feelings would get hurt. I got tired of supplying whiskey and mentioned that they should start bringing their own; they did for about 2 weeks. Suddenly the number of people stopping by dwindled. Currently none of them come by anymore and I'm cool with it. Randomly I will hear from them when they want me to do something to their car, need advice on some bullshit or just need someone to listen to them complain for about an hour (usually the female of the group).

It's funny how people who pose as friends are only your friends in the event that it benefits them to some degree. Remove the benefit and see how many of them make the effort to continue the relationship.
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Good people I tend to keep around in my life, as there aren't so many of them left out there it seems.

Never hurts to have some good acquaintances around even if you are only in contact with them every so often.
Same here - takes just a few moments for a response and if they are a good person what does it hurt. I tend to at least respond to contact for people that are good, even if I am not initiating anything.
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My Sancha, who actually set up the blind date that led to the last 20 blessed years of my life (no, she does NOT have access) texted me Thursday night to come have a beer, since her youngest son was waiting and having a beer-sales contest. We caught up for a few hours, then we probably won't see/hear for another several years.

BUT, we picked up right where we left off. There are one or two others like that, but few/far between. So I do cherish that time together.
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Who is Sancha, Mexican Santa?
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Have you ever talked with a Jehovah's Witness?

Neither have I.
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I did, but they werent friends and certain negative events pushed me back.
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Who is Sancha, Mexican Santa?
Yeah....explain this Sancha business UncleWede

Google reveals some pretty varying info from mexican babies named Holy to the girl your cheating with.....elaborate.
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Pretty much the latter, it's a joke among the family that my Mexican wife really doesn't appreciate

In my extremely limited defense, Sancha is the one who always called herself Sancha. I've only seen as much leg as a skirt reveals
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Have you ever talked with a Jehovah's Witness?

Neither have I.
Not to make this political/religious, as I'm sure they are decent humans, but knocking on doors and basically telling people they need to do something and refusing to leave is not very inviting.
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Pretty much the latter, it's a joke among the family that my Mexican wife really doesn't appreciate

In my extremely limited defense, Sancha is the one who always called herself Sancha. I've only seen as much leg as a skirt reveals
So you saw everything else and didnt look at her cankles?
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Not to make this political/religious, as I'm sure they are decent humans, but knocking on doors and basically telling people they need to do something and refusing to leave is not very inviting.
+1

Telling me what I should do is a sure way of guaranteeing that I won't do as you say!
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Telling me what I should do is a sure way of guaranteeing that I won't do as you say!
You should work out more.
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OP: sounds like someone you could be "facebook friends" with but nothing more. As mentioned, could be of help professionally in the future, but you shouldn't feel bad for not wanting more than anything past what's already been mentioned.
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