How much sex between a couple is normal?

[david.orr]

Originally Posted by Lups

Yeah, married guys suck.

not quite the right choice of words

[kscarrol]

Originally Posted by ASAP

Good thing I am African American average.

Isn't everyone on the internet?

[jgoens]

So, this thread is now about dick size? Well, ok..to compare it to the car...sometimes seems like my car is much more peppier...it just has an extra 20 hp for some reason...and...sometimes seems like my dick has an extra inch on some days...don't know why but thought you guys like to know that.

[carve]

I got married too young, and after I was married it dropped to about twice a month...and she let her self go....and she still made it seem like a favor. I masturbated a LOT. Stuck it out for a decade, but enough was enough. After I was divorced, the first woman I dated had a decade of sexual frustration unleashed upon her and it was at least twice every time we saw each other...sometimes 5 times but I'd ejaculate a cloud of dust at that point. Her vagina broke after a couple months (Seriously. Damaged skenes gland that took a couple years to fix. Probably not my fault though- just coincidence :P ) and she got a job where she basically moved away, and I started juggling a 2-4 women at a time. After I settled down, I probably had sex about 10 times per week, often with two women per day, occasionally three. It was awesome, but almost work to keep them all happy; I actually used Viagra occasionally to make sure I'd be ready to go after a busy week. I masturbated about 4 times that whole year. I met an awesome girl and decided to be exclusive. The first 10 months or so we went basically every day regardless of circumstances. We seldom went twice a day though. Two years on, we skip about 7 days per month, mostly when she's on her period, so that's only skipping a few days per month the rest of the time. This usually coincides with camping, business trips, or something where it's a bit less practical. I have a higher sex drive than her, but not by a lot, and she almost always seems into it- never a chore.

Men have a naturally higher libido (doesn't mean we enjoy sex more- just a higher sex drive). We also have a higher drive for variety.

The consistent pattern I see here is frequency reduces the longer you've been together. Part of this is aging, but I wonder how much of it is just the natural urge for novelty...new combinations of DNA. We live a long time now, and life is easy in the west, so perhaps we're genetically conditioned to get bored and move around in prosperous times like this. There is nobody I've ever been more compatible with than my girlfriend, but having the variety was satisfying on a different, deep, biological level. I think I'd ideally like two women- relationship, and variety girl; just not acceptable if I were to keep this one. I think Swingers have found a good balance between stability and variety.


Edit- I googled "Men crave variety" and found this. Interesting...

http://www.therulesrevisited.com/201...l-variety.html

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by CANGRKE70

I have a feeling this thread is going to turn into a look at me, look at me thread...or in other words a comparing your sex life to Mr.SugarSkulls

LOL I just saw this.

My sex life is definitely not a good measuring stick.

I believe in having a starting 5. As well as 5 reserves. They all have their different skills/talents. At which point, when one begins under performing- she's cut or traded, and the rotation rack continues.

There are slow days where it happens once or not at all, there are good days when it happens 3/4 times in a 24 hour span. Have been guilty of 2 women in the same day.

Disclosure- I am a single, childless, 27 year old man. It still gets up right after it goes down

But considering I will never get married, I hope I never have this issue

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Annual income - $4.5m (plus bonus)
Dick size - 9 inches
Driving ability - Sebastian Vettel
Fighting ability - Ronda Rousey v Bethe Correia
Weightlifting ability - bench 800

I also have sex five times a day, minimum. This is normal. Anyone lesser should be ashamed.

Am I doing this right?

There you go spilling the beans of us again

[John 070]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

LOL I just saw this.

My sex life is definitely not a good measuring stick.

I believe in having a starting 5. As well as 5 reserves. They all have their different skills/talents. At which point, when one begins under performing- she's cut or traded, and the rotation rack continues.

There are slow days where it happens once or not at all, there are good days when it happens 3/4 times in a 24 hour span. Have been guilty of 2 women in the same day.

Disclosure- I am a single, childless, 27 year old man. It still gets up right after it goes down

But considering I will never get married, I hope I never have this issue

Again this is the internet, so, I find "five plus five" hard to believe. But if it's true, hats off to you. My dad always told me in my single days, shoot for 3. I actually got up to a whopping 2, and my buddy said you're gonna get burned, you better choose before you get caught. It was hard to manage. I told my state trooper buddies for real, I think I can withstand any interrogation you guys can put out. They said no you can't, in the real world, it's bad cop, bad cop, not like on tv. You will crack.

I have to admit trying to have two girlfriends was pretty stressful. So five plus five, I have to call it.

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by John 070

Again this is the internet, so, I find "five plus five" hard to believe. But if it's true, hats off to you. My dad always told me in my single days, shoot for 3. I actually got up to a whopping 2, and my buddy said you're gonna get burned, you better choose before you get caught. It was hard to manage. I told my state trooper buddies for real, I think I can withstand any interrogation you guys can put out. They said no you can't, in the real world, it's bad cop, bad cop, not like on tv. You will crack.

I have to admit trying to have two girlfriends was pretty stressful. So five plus five, I have to call it.

Hahahah it was a metaphor. Didn't mean for it to be taken literally.

On my iPhone next to certain girls however, I do have a "peach" emoticon next to the names (looks like a butt) it's my way of branding the different girls I've hooked up with, with the door that's left open. I do have my favorites, so while not an official 5, they are there for when the moment calls, call it a modern day "black book"

Juggling different women is really not that hard if you keep it strictly to sex. If you try hanging out, or even dating- then yes, I'm with you, can get very difficult.

[Øzzy]

During the first year of our marriage missus and I where quite active on a daily basis but now 16 years later I tend to prefer shaking hands with the general rather than begging my wife for some love, it's like having to make an appointment to shag which is frustrating

[bimmerfrk]

Originally Posted by Øzzy

During the first year of our marriage missus and I where quite active on a daily basis but now 16 years later I tend to prefer shaking hands with the general rather than begging my wife for some love, it's like having to make an appointment to shag which is frustrating

She may have another Mr. All women need the D on a regular basis.

[Øzzy]

Originally Posted by bimmerfrk

She may have another Mr. All women need the D on a regular basis.

If she does good on her, I still prefer to shake hands with the general over the nagging

[Delta0311]

Originally Posted by bimmerfrk

She may have another Mr. All women need the D on a regular basis.

That's usually NOT the case.. Stress, hormonal fluctuations, birth control, depression (usually more common in women), lack of energy due to daily activity all these things can have a great affect on a woman's sex life.

[carve]

Originally Posted by John 070

Again this is the internet, so, I find "five plus five" hard to believe. But if it's true, hats off to you. My dad always told me in my single days, shoot for 3. I actually got up to a whopping 2, and my buddy said you're gonna get burned, you better choose before you get caught. It was hard to manage. I told my state trooper buddies for real, I think I can withstand any interrogation you guys can put out. They said no you can't, in the real world, it's bad cop, bad cop, not like on tv. You will crack.

I have to admit trying to have two girlfriends was pretty stressful. So five plus five, I have to call it.

Here's the secret: don't hide. Don't rub it in their faces or remind them regularly, but be honest that you're not exclusive. You'll lose a few, but the ones who stay get ULTRA competitive for your attention. It's kinda awesome. One who I only saw on Fridays called herself "your girl Friday". That said, juggling over 3 or 4 took all my time, although in hindsight I'd try for 5 and just not see any of them more than once per week. They'll lose interest quicker, but also won't get as attached so it's a lot less drama. This is what I did with my side girls after I met my current girlfriend, but before we agreed to be exclusive. Strictly FWBs. Clean and super fun. If you have minimal contact and only see them about once per week, it's implicit that it's nothing serious.

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by carve

Here's the secret: don't hide. Don't rub it in their faces or remind them regularly, but be honest that you're not exclusive. You'll lose a few, but the ones who stay get ULTRA competitive for your attention. It's kinda awesome. One who I only saw on Fridays called herself "your girl Friday". That said, juggling over 3 or 4 took all my time, although in hindsight I'd try for 5 and just not see any of them more than once per week. They'll lose interest quicker, but also won't get as attached so it's a lot less drama. This is what I did with my side girls after I met my current girlfriend, but before we agreed to be exclusive. Strictly FWBs. Clean and super fun. If you have minimal contact and only see them about once per week, it's implicit that it's nothing serious.

Couldn't have said it better myself

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

There you go spilling the beans of us again

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[John 070]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

Couldn't have said it better myself

Da** if I only knew then what I know now ....yeah wtf was I stressed about two...I was not married at the time.....

[MrPrena]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Annual income - $4.5m (plus bonus)
Dick size - 9 inches
Driving ability - Sebastian Vettel
Fighting ability - Ronda Rousey v Bethe Correia
Weightlifting ability - bench 800

I also have sex five times a day, minimum. This is normal. Anyone lesser should be ashamed.

Am I doing this right?

Out of all those description, driving skills like Vettel is just little too much to ask...

[Biorin]

Originally Posted by MrPrena

Out of all those description, driving skills like Vettel is just little too much to ask...

Shoot for the stars! Raikkonen?

[MrPrena]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Shoot for the stars! Raikkonen?

Pastor Maldonado? kidding


I think just dating an F1 start will meet most the requirement you have.

[Biorin]

Originally Posted by MrPrena

Pastor Maldonado? kidding


I think just dating an F1 start will meet most the requirement you have.

Kimi is actually a good friend of a good friend. Seeing as I am not a Scandinavian supermodel, I don't expect many dates in our future, but if anyone is into the star-fcker thing I hear he's not a hard sell.

[MrPrena]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Kimi is actually a good friend of a good friend. Seeing as I am not a Scandinavian supermodel, I don't expect many dates in our future, but if anyone is into the star-fcker thing I hear he's not a hard sell.

Some people collect star-f'ing, and some supermodels/actress collects F1 principal/owner-f'ing like Naomi, Klum, Yeoh, etc.

[Biorin]

Originally Posted by MrPrena

Some people collect star-f'ing, and some supermodels/actress collects F1 principal/owner-f'ing like Naomi, Klum, Yeoh, etc.

I can live with only 200-300m if it means 30-40 years younger... Maybe one day I will learn to compromise my standards for money, it would be much easier to be a trophy wife.