Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by M5Rick

You're too much of a perfectionist.

I'm not a perfectionist. I'm not asking for perfection nor a supermodel either. I've dated a woman with those things. It only ended because she was ready for marriage and I wasn't. Much of what I stated comes down to values.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Sara

Those are basic needs.

Exactly!

[King Rudi]

What makes a woman attractive Volume 1

At first, appearance
- Eyes
- Hair
- Overall appearance (she doesn't have to look like a model. I'm attracted to all types. Physical proportionate ratio's must be in check
- Knows how to dress and carry themselves.
- Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene.....utmost importance here.

Later, personality
- Must have their shit together to some degree. She could be a 10 but still be a total
train wreck, pass.
- Drama.....NO. Shit together, good job, attractive, overall greatness but add just a
pinch of drama and I'm out.
- Must be able to carry a conversation. Lack of IQ will result in a lack of sex. I'm
sapiosexual, so this is extremely important. I'm a talker and need someone who not
only knows what I'm talking about, but can keep up.
- Down to earth. We can both be whatever we need to be during the day
professionally, but at night if it's time to relax, all bets are off. If I want to eat left
over Chinese food in the bed at 2:00 am while watching TV and talking, then judge me
not.

Even further later, morals
- Must have their shit together morally. Period. Prioritize life.
- Must have good work ethic. I work my ass off. I expect my partner to be just as
determined as I am to get wherever the hell it is I'm going in life.
- Commitment. I am not going to date anyone I don't feel like I can trust. Been
cheated on, won't deal with it again. Any early indication of this behavior and the
ground will be on fire behind me.

There is so much more, but this is a basic run down of what I find attractive. this was actually kinda therapeutic and I learned a little about myself in the past few minutes, while typing this out. Just my $.02.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

What makes a woman attractive Volume 1

At first, appearance
- Eyes
- Hair

What hair type/style do you prefer?

I have it in my mind that men love long hair.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Sara

What hair type do you prefer?

I have it in my mind that men love long hair.

I have dated women with short hair and long hair. I don't have a preference, as long as it's long enough for me to play with.


....waits for the, "That's what she said!, jokes.

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

I'm not a perfectionist. I'm not asking for perfection nor a supermodel either. I've dated a woman with those things. It only ended because she was ready for marriage and I wasn't. Much of what I stated comes down to values.

There has to be a certain amount of 'give' and some things you can't keep measuring and just have to base on trust. If you don't mind me being direct when will you be ready for marriage.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by M5Rick

There has to be a certain amount of 'give' and some things you can't keep measuring and just have to base on trust. If you don't mind me being direct when will you be ready for marriage.

That relationship ended Dec 2012, so a lot has changed. I'm more ready now. I was a year or so into a new career, we were going to relationship counseling, etc. She looked at marriage as a fix-all.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

I have dated women with short hair and long hair. I don't have a preference, as long as it's long enough for me to play with.


....waits for the, "That's what she said!, jokes.

That's fair.

The guy who withheld my jacket asked me if my hair was real on our first date I was like what??

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Sara

That's fair.

The guy who withheld my jacket asked me if my hair was real on our first date I was like what??

Haha! I wonder if you had replied, "No!," if he would've considered it a deal breaker. Lol!

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Sara

That's fair.

The guy who withheld my jacket asked me if my hair was real on our first date I was like what??

That's when you excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and walk out the front door

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

That relationship ended Dec 2012, so a lot has changed. I'm more ready now. I was a year or so into a new career, we were going to relationship counseling, etc. She looked at marriage as a fix-all.

She wanted to get married while you were not ready, I see and she didn't want to carry on as it was.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by M5Rick

She wanted to get married while you were not ready, I see and she didn't want to carry on as it was.

Yes. Counseling revealed issues we both needed to work on (...some sort of separation anxiety/fear of abandonment stuff on her part), so she had a tendency to display behaviors associated with that. She was beginning the fire fighter academy and gave me an ultimatum. Unfortunately those never go over well. We ended amicably and are still friends today. She is currently married to a Captain of a local fire department and they had a child a few years ago. She doesn't need to work. She's living her best life. Lol! I'm still chasing Porsche GT3's. Priorities! I joke!

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Yes. Counseling revealed issues we both needed to work on (...some sort of separation anxiety/fear of abandonment stuff on her part), so she had a tendency to display behaviors associated with that. She was beginning the fire fighter academy and gave me an ultimatum. Unfortunately those never go over well. We ended amicably and are still friends today. She is currently married to a Captain of a local fire department and they had a child a few years ago. She doesn't need to work. She's living her best life. Lol!

It's great that it ended amicably as you say and you are still friends, some relationships end in bitterness and recriminations.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Sara

That's fair.

The guy who withheld my jacket asked me if my hair was real on our first date I was like what??

Maybe he lurks here and read the post with your picture that asked if anyone could name the 4 things in the picture that were fake

Sorry, couldn't resist. You opened the door, I just walked in.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Maybe he lurks here and read the post with your picture that asked if anyone could name the 4 things in the picture that were fake

Sorry, couldn't resist. You opened the door, I just walked in.

Haha! I forgot about that post.

Everything else may be fake but I’m proud that my hair length is real (not the color lol) and my nails are real.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara

What hair type/style do you prefer?

I have it in my mind that men love long hair.

It's all matter of opinion type stuff. I find that I don't really have a specific type, but hair is all relative. I've dated girls with short hair and long hair. Personally, I prefer shorter hair. Also depends on the person, their height and shape of their melon.

I find that long hair only gets in my face when they are......on top. Sorry, no real PC way of putting this. I also find that long hair gets in the way during....felatio. Again, sorry. As long as I have enough at the base of the skull to grab a handful of and pull, we're good.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Unfortunately it's the same with women. The more attractive women always come with more headaches. It sucks.

I think it's the opposite, it's been the "slightly above average" ones who think they are hot that come with the most headaches. A 6/7 out of 10 is THE worst. Because they think they are hot, and live under the (imo) false assumption that all hot people are trouble so they act like someone they aren't. 8 and up tend to be much more amicable. For me it's always been the 6s and 7s that are hardest to talk to and see where it goes; the attitude alone is extremely repulsive to me.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

It's all matter of opinion type stuff. I find that I don't really have a specific type, but hair is all relative. I've dated girls with short hair and long hair. Personally, I prefer shorter hair. Also depends on the person, their height and shape of their melon.

I find that long hair only gets in my face when they are......on top. Sorry, no real PC way of putting this. I also find that long hair gets in the way during....felatio. Again, sorry. As long as I have enough at the base of the skull to grab a handful of and pull, we're good.

You are supposed to be a gentleman and hold their hair for them.

[Sara]

Y'all ever get PTSD over a name?

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Sara

Y'all ever get PTSD over a name?

Lol! Never!

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Lol! Never!

Just seeing someone with the same name as my BD gives me anxiety lol. Instant swipe left.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Sara

Just seeing someone with the same name as my BD gives me anxiety lol. Instant swipe left.

What's his name? I'm curious now. Lol!