Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

It does happen to guys. I don't disagree with this. It used to happen to me. I relate with the unapproachable bit too. I'm told that I intimidate women, so I understand. Good on your friend for being forward. More women should be this way, but 90% are not. Perhaps if she had given her number to him herself, rather than leaving an anonymous note, he would have texted more quickly. Most attractive women aren't forward. This leaves men thinking that some ugly chick wants their attention. Men LOVE attractive women who know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.

Either way, if you don't realize you hold all the cards; I could turn you into an absolute demon.

Well the full story was, he was alone on his laptop for a while. After she had put her number on his laptop and he came back from the restroom not even 5 minutes later a women in scrubs walks in and sat at the table with him. We thought, fuck he's got a girlfriend. Then, two more people joined their group. Turns out he's single and those were just his friends, however he turned out to be a pompous ass and he immediately asked for a underwear pic from her when he texted her. She never responded to him. This is what we're dealing with in New Orleans....no actual decent men. Just fuck boys.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

It does happen to guys. I don't disagree with this. It used to happen to me. I relate with the unapproachable bit too. I'm told that I intimidate women, so I understand. Good on your friend for being forward. More women should be this way, but 90% are not. Perhaps if she had given her number to him herself, rather than leaving an anonymous note, he would have texted more quickly. Most attractive women aren't forward. This leaves men thinking that some ugly chick wants their attention. Men LOVE attractive women who know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.

Either way, if you don't realize you hold all the cards; I could turn you into an absolute demon.



Sara, it's not all about you. Sorry, but it's true. 400+ pages deep and this thread isn't about you.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

No, I'm an equal opportunity kinda asshole. I take it just as well as I give it.
I don't recall calling you "psychotic" but I wouldn't put it past you to boil a bunny rabbit. Just funny that you happen to reply to me and make such comments as "short, skinny and bald." Honestly, not bothered by any of it. I'm only short to amazons, I'm bald by choice as I shave it and I worked my ass off to look how I do, the only one who sees me with my shirt off isn't complaining.

I'm a type A personality who is (to borrow a line from a fellow forum member) in a state of perpetual disappointment from others, I always have a pickle up my ass. Only those who want to provoke the dragon get to see the flames. In 44 years on this planet, I've yet to meet anyone who put me in my place aside from the officers that arrested me, I doubt that a nurse is going to do it.

I'll pass on the PM. Thanks though.

You know how there are some people who are single for a very obvious reason, and it has everything to do with their personality rather than their looks, confidence, etc? The ones who put other people down to try to build themselves up? And then claim the reason they are single is because they have "life goals" they want to accomplish rather than doing some deep self introspection? Yeah...

Basically just have to ignore them because you aren't going to change them.

On a totally different note, I'm pretty stuck on what I should do when my lease is up in November. I don't think I'm going to buyout the S6, but was coming home from the office around midnight last night and did a launch start to bring a smile to my face and I realize I might just miss this car if I give it back.

In the back of my mind, I'm considering trying to find a short term lease on a VW Golf R in stick for a year or two until the cars I'm interested in become readily available. Any experience on the R?

[Turkish Pickle]

Can I not be in someone's ass? Thanks

I like you guys but as friends only

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara

Well the full story was, he was alone on his laptop for a while. After she had put her number on his laptop and he came back from the restroom not even 5 minutes later a women in scrubs walks in and sat at the table with him. We thought, fuck he's got a girlfriend. Then, two more people joined their group. Turns out he's single and those were just his friends, however he turned out to be a pompous ass and he immediately asked for a underwear pic from her when he texted her. She never responded to him. This is what we're dealing with in New Orleans....no actual decent men. Just fuck boys.

I have to say, I'm amazed at the quality, or should I say lack thereof of potential candidates down there. I'm sorry. I will say that most men act like this because it works for them. I'm not saying it's you or your friends, but everything in a persons personality is based off conditioning. If a guy wants to get laid, and he does XYZ, then gets laid; he now thinks this is an acceptable from of behavior in order to get laid. Doesn't mean that it's acceptable, it's just science.

Originally Posted by Sara

Oh come on. I'm not being mean to you today, I'm just matter of fact. No need to be mad.

[Lady Jane]

Originally Posted by Sara

whoa whoa whoa

What's happening in here? Let's all just get back to laughing at my friendship/dating woes.

Probably remnants of Sunday's full moon when arseholes come out of the wood work.
I know arseholes. I deal with them medically and psychologically on a daily basis. he he he... You're right, lets not forget why we are here.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Sara

whoa whoa whoa

What's happening in here? Let's all just get back to laughing at my friendship/dating woes.

Oh we are, we are, trust me. We just took a small tangent to modify some poor behaviour and we're almost right back on track for your next episode.

But it would be nice to hear from some other dating woefuls too. I'm married, but I'm positive my wife could share a number of woes she's experienced while married / shackled to me. Actually, I even probably remember a few that I haven't successfully buried yet in my deep subconscious.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I have to say, I'm amazed at the quality, or should I say lack thereof of potential candidates in down there. I'm sorry. I will say that most men act like this because it works for them. I'm not saying it's you or your friends, but everything in a persons personality is based off conditioning. If a guy wants to get laid, and he does XYZ, then gets laid; he now thinks this is an acceptable from of behavior in order to get laid. Doesn't mean that it's acceptable, it's just science.



Oh come on. I'm not being mean to you today, I'm just matter of fact. No need to be mad.

I'm just messing with you.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Oh we are, we are, trust me. We just took a small tangent to modify some poor behaviour and we're almost right back on track for your next episode.

But it would be nice to hear from some other dating woefuls too. I'm married, but I'm positive my wife could share a number of woes she's experienced while married / shackled to me. Actually, I even probably remember a few that I haven't successfully buried yet in my deep subconscious.

I'll stand down for a while and see if this thread doesn't die, too. lol


In all seriousness no dates/guy friend hot tub dates planned for a bit. Just girlfriends on my agenda this weekend. Though we are getting all dolled up and hitting two bars. So who knows what this weekend's adventure will bring.

[King Rudi]

Sunday was two days ago. I'm an asshole year round, the difference is what level of asshole a person gets, depends on them. The full moon only makes me frisky(er).

Originally Posted by Joekerr

You know how there are some people who are single for a very obvious reason, and it has everything to do with their personality rather than their looks, confidence, etc? The ones who put other people down to try to build themselves up? And then claim the reason they are single is because they have "life goals" they want to accomplish rather than doing some deep self introspection? Yeah...

Basically just have to ignore them because you aren't going to change them.

On a totally different note, I'm pretty stuck on what I should do when my lease is up in November. I don't think I'm going to buyout the S6, but was coming home from the office around midnight last night and did a launch start to bring a smile to my face and I realize I might just miss this car if I give it back.

In the back of my mind, I'm considering trying to find a short term lease on a VW Golf R in stick for a year or two until the cars I'm interested in become readily available. Any experience on the R?

As a child, I'm sure that some point you noticed ants marching. Busy, industrial little bastards. Always moving, searching for food and whatnot. Did you ever just put stuff in their path to see how they would progress from that point? Even as small child, I tried to simplify the life of an ant, by showing it a better path that it couldn't see for itself. I'm sure those ants thought I was an asshole for interrupting their pathway of......"antery"? I didn't change the ants, still did not deter me from showing them a better way, whether they accepted it or not....I have no doubts they thought I was a monster disrupting their "life goals."

I know nothing of VW's, but a manual Golf R sounds like a lot of fun. I'm in the same boat. Had been looking, as you know, to help the girlfriend. In doing so, I've become quote fond of the C300. The plant manager rolled up in one yesterday. Mixed reactions. Frustrating because he keeps buying (ahem, cough renting) the cars that I want, keeps them for 3 months and turns them in. It's for the best that he got a C300. The more I see it in person, the more I dislike it. LOVE the interior though.

Side note: the girlfriend just sent me a link to a Jag XE 20d for her. This is after me talking her out of the A4. Yes she can afford the cars that she is looking at, but I'm trying to get her to understand the cost of ownership.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by LemansE90335xi

A few years ago a group of friends and I were out having a couple of drinks. It was a well mixed group with some couples but mostly just friends, both male and female. The conversation came around to this very subject and after some discussion one of the ladies said something that pretty much ended the debate. She said that when it comes to going out and looking to "hook up" a man goes out hoping to get lucky while a woman decides before she goes out whether she will get lucky or not. There was general agreement that what she said was absolutely true. I doubt things have changed very much in that regard. LadyJane's comment seems to support this idea as well.

Now this is worthy.

You sir, win The Internet Today. Congratulations!!
As a female friend of mine said, men get lucky, women make choices. Now those two can and often do intersect but the gestalt is completely different.

Great post!!

[rebekahb]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I don't recall calling you "psychotic" but I wouldn't put it past you to boil a bunny rabbit.

I really needed a laugh today and this just made me lose my shit, thanks for that:

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Sunday was two days ago. I'm an asshole year round, the difference is what level of asshole a person gets, depends on them. The full moon only makes me frisky(er).



As a child, I'm sure that some point you noticed ants marching. Busy, industrial little bastards. Always moving, searching for food and whatnot. Did you ever just put stuff in their path to see how they would progress from that point? Even as small child, I tried to simplify the life of an ant, by showing it a better path that it couldn't see for itself. I'm sure those ants thought I was an asshole for interrupting their pathway of......"antery"? I didn't change the ants, still did not deter me from showing them a better way, whether they accepted it or not....I have no doubts they thought I was a monster disrupting their "life goals."

I know nothing of VW's, but a manual Golf R sounds like a lot of fun. I'm in the same boat. Had been looking, as you know, to help the girlfriend. In doing so, I've become quote fond of the C300. The plant manager rolled up in one yesterday. Mixed reactions. Frustrating because he keeps buying (ahem, cough renting) the cars that I want, keeps them for 3 months and turns them in. It's for the best that he got a C300. The more I see it in person, the more I dislike it. LOVE the interior though.

Side note: the girlfriend just sent me a link to a Jag XE 20d for her. This is after me talking her out of the A4. Yes she can afford the cars that she is looking at, but I'm trying to get her to understand the cost of ownership.

Ohhh...I wouldn't touch Jaguar. Any JLR products for that matter. We had a Land Rover LR2 that we leased...and I knew about this before we leased, but my personal experience bore it out too...while nice, every JLR product that leaves the factory seems to come equipped with its own complimentary gremlins - they specifically seem to hide in the electrical components.

Nice cars...for leasing. When you can give it back. I still really like them...I just don't think I ever want to own one out of warranty.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Ok, but his point was to say women can get any date arranged quicker and easier than guys, not when being selective. If the only objective is to go on a date, it is easier for women than men to get that arranged.

Also - this doesn't really have much to do with looks. I'm a tall, well-built guy with great hair at almost half his age, yet I'm envious of Rudi's ability to pull. It just comes more naturally to him I guess :

Sorry I skipped right over your post without responding:

Not being selective? Then what's the point?

I'm not wasting my time or my makeup on just any guy. Of course I'm going to be selective of who I waste good lipstick on. It takes a good minute for me to get ready, do my hair, my make up, pick out an outfit. There's no way in hell I'm doing that for just anyone. "Just to go on a date" is not worth my time and I certainly hope all women think like this. I'm perfectly content sitting alone at the barn on the back of my horse or at home playing with playdoh with my kid.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Ohhh...I wouldn't touch Jaguar. Any JLR products for that matter. We had a Land Rover LR2 that we leased...and I knew about this before we leased, but my personal experience bore it out too...while nice, every JLR product that leaves the factory seems to come equipped with its own complimentary gremlins - they specifically seem to hide in the electrical components.

Nice cars...for leasing. When you can give it back. I still really like them...I just don't think I ever want to own one out of warranty.

Agreed, and I even have a good friend who works for them!

Meanwhile my partner's 2009 118d is on its 3rd recall in our 3 year ownership, all for electrical components

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Had he not screwed it up by opening his mouth. Men guilty of this....raise your hands gentlemen.....🙋*♂️

Don't have enough hands for that one...

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I always have a pickle up my ass

If it's a Turkish Pickle that would explain a lot.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Sara

Sorry I skipped right over your post without responding:

Not being selective? Then what's the point?

I'm not wasting my time or my makeup on just any guy. Of course I'm going to be selective of who I waste good lipstick on. It takes a good minute for me to get ready, do my hair, my make up, pick out an outfit. There's no way in hell I'm doing that for just anyone. "Just to go on a date" is not worth my time and I certainly hope all women think like this. I'm perfectly content sitting alone at the barn on the back of my horse or at home playing with playdoh with my kid.

oh get off the high horse
Sara give the pokemon guys a chance!

[Sara]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

oh get off the high horse
Sara give the pokemon guys a chance!

Never going to happen.

Rather spend that time with my kid or horses. I have limited time to date as it is, not wasting it on someone I'm not into.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Sara

Never going to happen.

Rather spend that time with my kid or horses. I have limited time to date as it is, not wasting it on someone I'm not into.

valid point
But Im sure there is someone in your circle that likes you, may treat you well but he isnt your type....yes or no??

[Sara]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

valid point
But Im sure there is someone in your circle that likes you, may treat you well but he isnt your type....yes or no??

I'm sure there is, in fact I know of several, but again if he isn't my type, I'm not going to waste his time or hurt his feelings. Plus I'm in my prime. If I'm not going to sleep with you, it's just a waste of my time as well. I don't date guys I wouldn't fuck.

[UncleWede]

And there it is!!