Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Sara

I’m still salty about that voice memo I forwarded to you. Like does he really think that’s what I want to hear???

Short story: I invited a guy friend over to hang out in the hot tub with me and my girlfriend. He’s met her before. He wasn’t feeling 100% so instead of saying “hey Sara, I don’t feel my best I’ll come over another time when I’m not under the weather” he says “... the only reason I’m torn is because of what you look like...”

What an insult.


Hope everyone else has a better night.

Wtaf!?? What was he trying to achieve by saying that?

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sara

I mean, fuck. Like is New Orleans seriously just full of douche bags??

My spirit animal must be a bull because I’m only attracted to red flags. Even in just my regular guy friends.

As said,you are just on a sticky wicket and I'm sure you'll come up lucky soon.

[Kick 6]

When I was in high school, one of my buddies came up to me and said he needed some help. He was dating a girl from the next town and wanted to go out with her but she had a friend that was with her and he needed someone to go out with the friend. I'd never been on a blind date before and didn't really want to go on one but my buddy said "Hey, if I wasn't already going out with Jessica, I'd be trying to go out with her. She has the best personality" That should have set off multiple alarms but I trusted Jeff, he was a straight shooter and had never let me down before. We met these girls at the Hardee's parking lot, a romantically ironic place to meet them, and I anxiously awaited their arrival. When they pulled up, a beautiful thin hottie gets out of the car and I say "Is that her?" and he replied "No, that one is mine." When my date got out of the car, the car literally rose up 2 or 3 inches. She was the biggest girl I had ever seen. She wasn't fat, she was just a big girl. To put it in perspective, she was bigger than any linebacker we had starting on our football team. With her 80's hair all frizzed up, she looked like a cross between a Neanderthal and an Afghan Wolf Hound. My buddy said "What do you think?" and I replied "I think she could beat the shit out of me." I'm sure she had a great personality, I was so distracted I couldn't tell. I just wasn't into dating giants.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Kick 6

When I was in high school, one of my buddies came up to me and said he needed some help. He was dating a girl from the next town and wanted to go out with her but she had a friend that was with her and he needed someone to go out with the friend. I'd never been on a blind date before and didn't really want to go on one but my buddy said "Hey, if I wasn't already going out with Jessica, I'd be trying to go out with her. She has the best personality" That should have set off multiple alarms but I trusted Jeff, he was a straight shooter and had never let me down before. We met these girls at the Hardee's parking lot, a romantically ironic place to meet them, and I anxiously awaited their arrival. When they pulled up, a beautiful thin hottie gets out of the car and I say "Is that her?" and he replied "No, that one is mine." When my date got out of the car, the car literally rose up 2 or 3 inches. She was the biggest girl I had ever seen. She wasn't fat, she was just a big girl. To put it in perspective, she was bigger than any linebacker we had starting on our football team. With her 80's hair all frizzed up, she looked like a cross between a Neanderthal and an Afghan Wolf Hound. My buddy said "What do you think?" and I replied "I think she could beat the shit out of me." I'm sure she had a great personality, I was so distracted I couldn't tell. I just wasn't into dating giants.

There is a lid for every pot. You just weren't hers.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara

Do guys really only hang out with women FOR WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE?!

Men (and "guys" too) approach women we are physically attracted to.

As for "just friends," appearances do not matter in the least. I have ugly ass friends that I would go to battle for and with all day long.

For the answer you are looking for. Men who only hang out with women they are attracted to (as friends) are hoping to engage in sexual congress. Point-blank; end of conversation.

Originally Posted by Sara

I’m still salty about that voice memo I forwarded to you. Like does he really think that’s what I want to hear???

Short story: I invited a guy friend over to hang out in the hot tub with me and my girlfriend. He’s met her before. He wasn’t feeling 100% so instead of saying “hey Sara, I don’t feel my best I’ll come over another time when I’m not under the weather” he says “... the only reason I’m torn is because of what you look like...”

What an insult.


Hope everyone else has a better night.

See previous reply. If he were not attracted to you and he felt well, (and he wasn't a douche) he would have been there. If he were not attracted to you and he didn't feel well, it wouldn't have even been a thought to raincheck. That simple.

[Lady Jane]

Originally Posted by Sara

he says “... the only reason I’m torn is because of what you look like...” What an insult.

Don't fret over it Sara. Some men just want a little trophy that they can brag about to their friends. You're an accessory just like their flashy watch, car or suit. Lots of fish out there. Change your bait. You have what it takes. Be choosy. And patient...

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Change your bait.

excellent turn of phrase

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Wtaf!?? What was he trying to achieve by saying that?

He's hoping to climb out of the friend zone.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Don't fret over it Sara. Some men just want a little trophy that they can brag about to their friends. You're an accessory just like their flashy watch, car or suit. Lots of fish out there. Change your bait. You have what it takes. Be choosy. And patient...

TBH, I want guy friends I can brag about, too.

But the hot ones always seem to come with much more stress.

[Sara]

I'm going to be nice and give him the benefit of the doubt. We all say dumb things when we don't feel well. I've said shit that pissed off my friends before. Maybe he was doped up on Nyquil. Who knows.


But for the record, I do have an awesome personality.

[nyalpine90]

triple post- Sara how much coffee have you consume this morning???

[Sara]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

triple post- Sara how much coffee have you consume this morning???

I dont know what you're talking about

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Kick 6

When I was in high school, one of my buddies came up to me and said he needed some help. He was dating a girl from the next town and wanted to go out with her but she had a friend that was with her and he needed someone to go out with the friend. I'd never been on a blind date before and didn't really want to go on one but my buddy said "Hey, if I wasn't already going out with Jessica, I'd be trying to go out with her. She has the best personality" That should have set off multiple alarms but I trusted Jeff, he was a straight shooter and had never let me down before. We met these girls at the Hardee's parking lot, a romantically ironic place to meet them, and I anxiously awaited their arrival. When they pulled up, a beautiful thin hottie gets out of the car and I say "Is that her?" and he replied "No, that one is mine." When my date got out of the car, the car literally rose up 2 or 3 inches. She was the biggest girl I had ever seen. She wasn't fat, she was just a big girl. To put it in perspective, she was bigger than any linebacker we had starting on our football team. With her 80's hair all frizzed up, she looked like a cross between a Neanderthal and an Afghan Wolf Hound. My buddy said "What do you think?" and I replied "I think she could beat the shit out of me." I'm sure she had a great personality, I was so distracted I couldn't tell. I just wasn't into dating giants.

No, it shouldn't have.

Besides the point, was this prior to picture phones? What held you back from asking Jeff what she looked like in detail? Did you at least have a good time with her?

[andrewmr]

Originally Posted by Sara

Do guys really only hang out with women FOR WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE?!

Are you saying looks don't enter into your decision making process....

[Lady Jane]

Originally Posted by Sara

TBH, I want guy friends I can brag about, too.

But the hot ones always seem to come with much more stress.

Sure...I know what you're saying. But when a guy spends more time looking at his own reflection or ogling every waitresses while having dinner because he thinks he's hot, then...Sayonara.

At the risk of blowing my own horn, I could fill my dance card every evening of the week. I have no shortage of requests. But I practice what I preach and very few get to tango.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by andrewmr

Are you saying looks don't enter into your decision making process....

No, I'm not, but it's the way he said it. If I could post a voice memo I would. I forwarded it to Mksixer and he had the same reaction I did.

I would never tell my guy friends the only reason I want to see you is because of what you look like

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sara

I'm going to be nice and give him the benefit of the doubt. We all say dumb things when we don't feel well. I've said shit that pissed off my friends before. Maybe he was doped up on Nyquil. Who knows.


But for the record, I do have an awesome personality.

That's fair, I've put my foot in it a few times with stupid remarks that should have had a zip on it.
In a goof moment he mentioned just your looks were important and not your personality also.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by dinonz

He's hoping to climb out of the friend zone.

....and in between two ladies. Had he not screwed it up by opening his mouth. Men guilty of this....raise your hands gentlemen.....🙋*♂️

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

At the risk of blowing my own horn, I could fill my dance card every evening of the week. I have no shortage of requests. But I practice what I preach and very few get to tango.

Nothing is more unbecoming of a lady than blowing her own horn. All women have no shortage of requests. Any woman can get a date, or anything else they want, at any time. Facts.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

....and in between two ladies. Had he not screwed it up by opening his mouth. Men guilty of this....raise your hands gentlemen.....��*♂️



Nothing is more unbecoming of a lady than blowing her own horn. All women have no shortage of requests. Any woman can get a date, or anything else they want, at any time. Facts.

That's so not true

[Lady Jane]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Any woman can get a date, or anything else they want, at any time. Facts.

Not from short skinny bald buffoons. Even women with low standards.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara

That's so not true

It's absolutely true and completely spot on. You're looking at it from the wrong the perspective. It may not be what you want, but you can get it. Life is always about give/take & compromise. You can have a date any night you want, you may not like the company, but you can get it. Being selective comes with it's own challenges.

Let me ask you this. Did you get your jacket back? Did you physically go get it yourself??? What were you saying about how this isn't true?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Not from short skinny bald buffoons. Even women with low standards.

Curious as to what you are implying here. It seems as if you are calling me short, skinny and bald. Am I correct?

At the same time, thank you for proving my point. So if a man were not short, skinny, bald or a buffoon then he could have whatever he wanted? I mean, as long as they don't have low standards?