Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

I don't think you've necessarily failed, girls throw these random tests all the fucking time. Per my friend a year or so back, she could've just been testing to see if you would simp and hand deliver her boba.

If you don't there's tons of soyboys who would do that. The sheer existence of onlyfans is a testament to this

Truth

Originally Posted by TrevorM3

True. Her loss unfortunately. i don't play those games. Just sucks i have to see her at work now. oh well, that was always the risk

You are the stronger person for not playing games. Fuck people who want to play games or get you to do shit for them, you don't need that kind of manipulation in your life. If someone is like that, distance yourself, you don't want any part of that in your life. There are good women out there, and part of finding them is distancing from the shitty ones the second their manipulative tendencies show through.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by TrevorM3

what ifs are the worst.

Small update on chick from the hospital. She texts me saturday while we were both at work. She says " i wanna go home" so, initiating small talk, and we talk for a little. Then she says she wants boba tea. I'm sitting right next to my Vietnamese friend when she texts that, and he tells me the best spot to go to. I reply with the name of the place, and i told her i've never had it, we should go check it out. She read it, then ghosted. Mission fail.

Correction, mission accomplished! You may not have succeeded in bedding down this young lass, true; however what you have done is uncovered the fact that she is not worth your time or effort......so mission not failed. Operation saving yourself some headache further down the road went according to plan. You did your part, you participated. She did her part, she showed you she isn't worth your energy as she is too busy playing games. Tons of simps out there that will love nothing more than to be strung along by her just to have some form of interaction with a female; just be glad it isn't you that's having your time wasted. Women like this are the sole reason dating in this day and age suck.....well, these women and the simps that get suckered into this shit because they buy into it. How you need to approach this mentally is that you are better than this. Sure she might be attractive, but so are other girls that don't act in this manner; go find one of those and don't waste another second of you time on this one. F her and her boba tea. Don't look at it as this sucks that you still have to see her at work; look at it as she has to see the one that got away by her own doing at work. Hold your head high. You did your part, she couldn't. Her loss, plain and simple. Well done my man.

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Oof I've been in that spot my man, hurts to realize you were just the emotional tampon

Congrats on the name change - I should change mine to something newer. Any ideas?



I don't think you've necessarily failed, girls throw these random tests all the fucking time. Per my friend a year or so back, she could've just been testing to see if you would simp and hand deliver her boba.

If you don't there's tons of soyboys who would do that. The sheer existence of onlyfans is a testament to this

Thank you kind sir. You are considering a change from Turkish Pickle??? You'll be hard pressed to find a better name in my opinion. That shit is gold!

I have to say, I'm not completely informed on the onlyfans business. From what I understand, it's basically "pay me for pictures" type situation? I won't pay for shit unless it's a date. The fact that random men will pay women they don't know for nothing more than pictures is hilarious. Poor bastards. I want to feel sorry for them but I just can't. Spend that hard earned money boys. If they are that stupid to do it, then the ladies shouldn't feel bad for taking it.

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Truth




You are the stronger person for not playing games. Fuck people who want to play games or get you to do shit for them, you don't need that kind of manipulation in your life. If someone is like that, distance yourself, you don't want any part of that in your life. There are good women out there, and part of finding them is distancing from the shitty ones the second their manipulative tendencies show through.

This. Every single word.

[Turkish Pickle]

idk who jack is

but King Rudi yes onlyfans is basically paying women for pictures, and to make matters worse it's a subscription deal. Would you be interested in paying $20-30/mo for a (admittedly hot) girl you'll never even talk to irl so she can send the same nudes she sent thousands of other guys?

Bro imo that, is somewhat okay - we all have times when we let hormones get the better of us. There's a platform where you can pay chicks to play video games with you. Some girls on that platform have "e-chat" services where you basically talk to a woman. That's it. No video chat etc, just texting.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

idk who jack is

but King Rudi yes onlyfans is basically paying women for pictures, and to make matters worse it's a subscription deal. Would you be interested in paying $20-30/mo for a (admittedly hot) girl you'll never even talk to irl so she can send the same nudes she sent thousands of other guys?

Bro imo that, is somewhat okay - we all have times when we let hormones get the better of us. There's a platform where you can pay chicks to play video games with you. Some girls on that platform have "e-chat" services where you basically talk to a woman. That's it. No video chat etc, just texting.

It pains me to think that men would allow themselves to be taken advantage like this.....and be ok with it. I just can't wrap my mind around it.

I was talking with a buddy of mine just a few days ago about strip clubs and the men who frequent them. I'm not talking about your average Joe that goes to a strip club with his buddies for bachelor parties, etc. equating maybe one visit every couple of years or so; I'm talking about the guys who are in there at least once a week. It's sad to me that men are so lonely that they are willing to throw away hard earned (or not) dollars at hopes of getting laid by someone who is only interested in how much money they can extract from said victim. I can only derive that this mentality is shared between the strip club boys and the onlyfans sort. I remember explaining to my friends, the last time we were at a strip club, what a pain in the ass it was. I seriously gave up an opportunity to get laid to go to strip club to pay money to see naked women and not get laid. I could have gotten laid at home....and for free, but it was a night out with the boys.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by TrevorM3

True. Her loss unfortunately. i don't play those games. Just sucks i have to see her at work now. oh well, that was always the risk

I would think the opposite. She now has to see you, knowing she failed in her little game to lead you around by your *ick. Hold your head high. She was the one that originally started talking about you. You're the one that got away. Dumb little girl.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I would think the opposite. She now has to see you, knowing she failed in her little game to lead you around by your *ick. Hold your head high. She was the one that originally started talking about you. You're the one that got away. Dumb little girl.

Coming straight from the mind of a lady. This.....all day long.

[TrevorM3]

appreciate the words boys

[Colodano]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I know nothing and everything of the situation you speak of. Quick answer: She was bored and was expecting a bunch of guys to be blowing up her inbox. You filled the void for a short period of time (aka her boredom). Another guy, who she thought would be better, talked to her for a while making her think she would be interested in him. Then he starts talking to another woman who he thought would be better for him, so he stopped talking to her, leaving her no other option than to go back to you. Welcome to on-line dating. (aka "You'll do until someone better comes along")

This one got more murky... and I should say that what she told me that day was "I don't know if I am as interested as you want me to be".

So obviously I backed off, and she called that night out of the blue. Since then I had just stayed consistent with communication to what she had done, had not mentioned meeting or anything any more, just keeping it relaxed.

So she asked me for some help on something, and invited me over. Went over on a night that her kid was there, totally fine with that as I wanted to just have an easy meeting. Ended up inviting me to stay for dinner, and we sat and chatted until after 1 am.
While there, she sent me a Venmo for a car part I picked up on the way over, and she commented "You're doing great" on the Venmo payment.... so baffled.

Seems cool, just rather unsure of what she may want, so I am just relaxing and going for being a friend right now, and see what happens. She has mentioned having me over again without a kid there, so I will see.


In the meantime.... massage gal has become smitten I guess, I have seen her two more times this week...

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Colodano

This one got more murky... and I should say that what she told me that day was "I don't know if I am as interested as you want me to be".

So obviously I backed off, and she called that night out of the blue. Since then I had just stayed consistent with communication to what she had done, had not mentioned meeting or anything any more, just keeping it relaxed.

So she asked me for some help on something, and invited me over. Went over on a night that her kid was there, totally fine with that as I wanted to just have an easy meeting. Ended up inviting me to stay for dinner, and we sat and chatted until after 1 am.
While there, she sent me a Venmo for a car part I picked up on the way over, and she commented "You're doing great" on the Venmo payment.... so baffled.

Seems cool, just rather unsure of what she may want, so I am just relaxing and going for being a friend right now, and see what happens. She has mentioned having me over again without a kid there, so I will see.


In the meantime.... massage gal has become smitten I guess, I have seen her two more times this week...

This is the signal. Why else would she want you over without the kid there unless there was intimacy involved?

Sometimes backing off turns them on and pulls them closer. Shows you don't give a shit. It's why after 7 years of ignoring her my ex just randomly reached out. Women get curious when they see you can be just as fine without them.

I was texting some girl on Match a few months back. We met up, had a good time, then she kind of hit me with the whole "idk what I want" stuff. So I said okay, good luck, and cut off communication. About 2 weeks ago I got a text from her asking how I was doing.

[yco]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I was texting some girl on Match a few months back. We met up, had a good time, then she kind of hit me with the whole "idk what I want" stuff. So I said okay, good luck, and cut off communication. About 2 weeks ago I got a text from her asking how I was doing.

how many really hot girls you ve done that? lets be honest..

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Colodano

This one got more murky... and I should say that what she told me that day was "I don't know if I am as interested as you want me to be".

So obviously I backed off, and she called that night out of the blue. Since then I had just stayed consistent with communication to what she had done, had not mentioned meeting or anything any more, just keeping it relaxed.

So she asked me for some help on something, and invited me over. Went over on a night that her kid was there, totally fine with that as I wanted to just have an easy meeting. Ended up inviting me to stay for dinner, and we sat and chatted until after 1 am.
While there, she sent me a Venmo for a car part I picked up on the way over, and she commented "You're doing great" on the Venmo payment.... so baffled.


Seems cool, just rather unsure of what she may want, so I am just relaxing and going for being a friend right now, and see what happens. She has mentioned having me over again without a kid there, so I will see.


In the meantime.... massage gal has become smitten I guess, I have seen her two more times this week...

Here is the translation. She only wants sex. If you're cool with that, go with it. DO NOT try to set anything up on your own; let her do it. If you're down for sex only, keep communication at a minimum and wait for her to contact you for the arrangements. If you're one of those guys that gets attached, has feelings and genuinely wants a relationship, avoid this chick at all costs; as she will rip your heart out through your knee caps and then act dumb about why you are upset after. She doesn't want a friend or a boyfriend, she wants sex and unrestricted sex at that. She doesn't want any emotional bs. General heads up, these girls are usually amazing at their craft.

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

This is the signal. Why else would she want you over without the kid there unless there was intimacy involved?

Sometimes backing off turns them on and pulls them closer. Shows you don't give a shit. It's why after 7 years of ignoring her my ex just randomly reached out. Women get curious when they see you can be just as fine without them.

I was texting some girl on Match a few months back. We met up, had a good time, then she kind of hit me with the whole "idk what I want" stuff. So I said okay, good luck, and cut off communication. About 2 weeks ago I got a text from her asking how I was doing.

To touch on this, women want what they can't have. Some men are this way as well. Long story short, if you are readily available and bend over backwards because you are trying to show interest....to the friend-zone with your ass! Act like you don't give a shit and they'll swoon over you.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by yco

how many really hot girls you ve done that? lets be honest..

I am being honest, I'm guessing it hasn't worked for you? I only date/pursue women I find attractive both mentally and physically.

It works more often than you think, but you have to A. not be a typical asshole like every other guy and B. have personality and charm that makes you different from other guys. Being in decent shape and taking care of yourself helps too. The bottom line is it won't work if your actions are a turn off.

The key with dating is to stand out, and bring something to the table that makes you different than all the other guys, especially on dating apps where they have tons of messages all asking for/implying the same thing.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I am being honest, I'm guessing it hasn't worked for you? I only date/pursue women I find attractive both mentally and physically.

It works more often than you think, but you have to A. not be a typical asshole like every other guy and B. have personality and charm that makes you different from other guys. Being in decent shape and taking care of yourself helps too. The bottom line is it won't work if your actions are a turn off.

The key with dating is to stand out, and bring something to the table that makes you different than all the other guys, especially on dating apps where they have tons of messages all asking for/implying the same thing.

Spoken like a true ladies man. Every single word of this is accurate.

[yco]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I am being honest, I'm guessing it hasn't worked for you? I only date/pursue women I find attractive both mentally and physically.

It works more often than you think, but you have to A. not be a typical asshole like every other guy and B. have personality and charm that makes you different from other guys. Being in decent shape and taking care of yourself helps too. The bottom line is it won't work if your actions are a turn off.

The key with dating is to stand out, and bring something to the table that makes you different than all the other guys, especially on dating apps where they have tons of messages all asking for/implying the same thing.

it depends on the girl for me.. for some girls you just need to be there, for some you need to disappear to attract more.. i cant generalize for all but i agree with with having a character, shape, taking etc. though thats a must for yourself first of all..

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I am being honest, I'm guessing it hasn't worked for you? I only date/pursue women I find attractive both mentally and physically.

It works more often than you think, but you have to A. not be a typical asshole like every other guy and B. have personality and charm that makes you different from other guys. Being in decent shape and taking care of yourself helps too. The bottom line is it won't work if your actions are a turn off.

The key with dating is to stand out, and bring something to the table that makes you different than all the other guys, especially on dating apps where they have tons of messages all asking for/implying the same thing.

You and the mighty King Rudi speak the truth. I could tell some crazy stories of when I was single and in really good shape!

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by yco

it depends on the girl for me.. for some girls you just need to be there, for some you need to disappear to attract more.. i cant generalize for all but i agree with with having a character, shape, taking etc. though thats a must for yourself first of all..

The biggest thing is knowing you can be happy on your own. Once you get to that point.....it's like you emit a signal or something.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

The biggest thing is knowing you can be happy on your own. Once you get to that point.....it's like you emit a signal or something.

Oh if I had only figured this out in my 20's.

[nyalpine90]

Yooooo what i missed out?

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

The biggest thing is knowing you can be happy on your own. Once you get to that point.....it's like you emit a signal or something.

This is so true. There are so many needy people out there. They feel they aren’t complete unless they are in a relationship. When you’re good being alone, you won’t deal with the BS. It attracts the other side. Almost like playing hard to get but not playing.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

You and the mighty King Rudi speak the truth. I could tell some crazy stories of when I was single and in really good shape!

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

Yooooo what i missed out?

Oh, nothing really. Rmtt is just pulling an upstatedoc and being a tease instead of heading on over to the confess here thread like he should have. That's all really.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by yco

it depends on the girl for me.. for some girls you just need to be there, for some you need to disappear to attract more.. i cant generalize for all but i agree with with having a character, shape, taking etc. though thats a must for yourself first of all..

Everyone is different, which is why you have to get to know them a bit to figure out what they want. Personally the clingy types really annoy the crap out of me after a short time so I never was really into them. Most of the women I've dated have been very independent.

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Everyone is different, which is why you have to get to know them a bit to figure out what they want. Personally the clingy types really annoy the crap out of me after a short time so I never was really into them. Most of the women I've dated have been very independent.

Couldn't agree more! I find independence to be an extremely attractive trait in a woman. More so than looks. There's definitely something comforting knowing she can take care of herself both financially and mentally without a guy around. I have also found that these types typically come with less baggage and tend to be more driven professionally. Both obviously attractive traits for me, but not so much for some of my buddies. It's weird to say, but it's almost like they intentionally seek out damaged girls as they're easier to pull.

Very strange to me, why would you want damaged goods?

Anything worth having in this world takes effort and commitment. The good ones are out there, but you've got to be willing to put in the effort.