Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

...I got a free trip to NOLA out of it.

And is there anywhere better to conduct a tawdry affair? I think not. And I've done quite a bit of looking.

Met my great current GF on POF. Just pure luck and timing, as so many things are, and being in a good place and the right frame of mind. We've been together 2-1/2 years now. We're good for each other and good to each other. One of the greatest things that's ever come my way.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

And is there anywhere better to conduct a tawdry affair? I think not. And I've done quite a bit of looking.

Met my great current GF on POF. Just pure luck and timing, as so many things are, and being in a good place and the right frame of mind. We've been together 2-1/2 years now. We're good for each other and good to each other. One of the greatest things that's ever come my way.

I'm happy for you. Hope it works out long term for you.

[Rmtt]

My brother met his current wife on E-Harmony.

He said that the questionnaire you have to fill out takes almost an hour, so it appears it matches you pretty good with other people that would be compatible.

Plus he said since it does take so long to join, most that are taking the time are ones looking for something more permanent.

Who knows...they get along great and seem to "fit" one another.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

That one was a keeper!

Yeah, she was a real doozer. When I heard about the hubby on life support my first instinct was to bolt for the door. But I suppressed the urge, figuring that there was more crazy on tap if I hung around. Wasn't very long, and she trotted out the frozen cat story. You see...patience is rewarded!

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

I'm happy for you. Hope it works out long term for you.

And to sweeten the deal, she's car nut and a Bimmer lover - she's on her third one, a 2012 135i M-Sport convertible. She's looking at the new Z4 M40i as a possible replacement, to get current tech/infotainment.

For a date, she took me to see Ford vs. Ferrari. That's when you know you have a cool girlfriend.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

Yeah, she was a real doozer. When I heard about the hubby on life support my first instinct was to bolt for the door. But I suppressed the urge, figuring that there was more crazy on tap if I hung around. Wasn't very long, and she trotted out the frozen cat story. You see...patience is rewarded!

glad you ran, you couldve been her next kitten in the freezer
wiimen are crazy!!

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

glad you ran, you couldve been her next kitten in the freezer
wiimen are crazy!!

Roger that.

I suppose if we had a wound that never healed, we'd be crazy too.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

Roger that.

I suppose if we had a wound that never healed, we'd be crazy too.

Maybe it would heal if you stopped reopening it every chance you got?


I'm kidding...I do the same.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Maybe it would heal if you stopped reopening it every chance you got?


I'm kidding...I do the same.

I'm a scab-picker, I confess. Oh wait...wrong thread.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

I'm a scab-picker, I confess. Oh wait...wrong thread.

I pick my nose

[SSW]

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

[Dang3r]

Enjoy your fresh freedom and don't think about a new long relationship too early. My experience had shown in the past that I had needed nearly the half time of entire duration to get completely over it. Beat the bushes around is also an option

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

Just in time to not have to buy any gifts!

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

i bet she was waiting for the rock on her finger??
what happen?

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

Welcome to the shit show! Buckle up!!!!


Had a new date last night. She told me I am a 7.5, I sucked on one tit then she went home

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Welcome to the shit show! Buckle up!!!!


Had a new date last night. She told me I am a 7.5, I sucked on one tit then she went home

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

She drove 1.5 hrs each way to tease herself.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

She drove 1.5 hrs each way to tease herself.

i bet she regretted not getting the d when she was 15mins into her road trip lol

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

i bet she regretted not getting the d when she was 15mins into her road trip lol

Most likely

[Kelse92]

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Kelse92

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

I've been off market so long, but what I remember is I looked for someone like you said, but where all our "core pillars" were aligned. Things like spiritual (I'm a Christian, she had to be as well - and a true Christian, not someone who just says they are), financial views, children, etc.

Pillars were anything that were critical in my life. Should only be a few of them. The rest...you can work out.

So to your question, I didn't put much weight on age (nice to have someone around same age though), but I did see career and financial as important. Not so much that she had to be well off, I just wanted someone who had focus, on anything really, just focus, so for me, I was looking for someone who had a plan and was enacting that plan. I felt the ability to focus and make a plan a reality would lend itself well to other areas of life.

For financial, it was more that we shared the same views on money. I'm more of a saver, but can spend on certain weaknesses I have, but primarily am a saver. So I wanted someone similar. I would be having ulcers early in life if I was married to someone who just threw money away.

Maybe that helps, maybe not. The youngest one...ehh, I'd be worried.

[Germanauto]

This past weekend I told a girl i had met a few times that I'm not ready for a relationship....aka I wasn't that into her. I just never developed any feelings for her and ultimately felt I couldn't be myself around her. The interactions were just not "natural" for a couple. Everything was forced. She wasn't hot enough to keep faking it.

On to the next.