Need advice: Should I buy a friend a car?

fecurtis · 06-03-2016, 02:50 PM

With reading just the title to the thread, I'm going to just say no, I don't care what the circumstances are. It's a great way to end a friendship doing stuff like that.

EDIT: Just read your post. If you want to help him, help him get a job.

Irishsig · 06-03-2016, 03:31 PM

Def do not buy him another car!
It would just be enabling his lack of drive, laziness, whatever the case may be.
He's old enough now to be able to make his own life decisions or mistakes.
You can lead a horse to water...

F30lolz · 06-03-2016, 03:34 PM

Holy thread revival Batman!

Irishsig · 06-03-2016, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by F30lolz

Holy thread revival Batman!

Holy Crap, you're right.
Yeeaaah... Im gonna go ahead and blame it on it being Friday and staring at the clock.
and Hair Fuhrer of course.

jgoens · 06-03-2016, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by F30lolz

Holy thread revival Batman!

No shit..

8 year old thread..didn't notice until you mentioned it.
Speaking of cars, what mods are on yours F30lolz --never got the answer.

MKSixer · 06-03-2016, 03:46 PM

Gents, we are being proactive. It's eight years later and any minute, the OP will chime in again about needing to purchase his friend another car.

The answer is still no.

sirdaft1 · 06-03-2016, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MKSixer

Gents, we are being proactive. It's eight years later and the any minute, OP will chime in again about needing to purchase his friend another car.

The answer is still no.

Haha! My thoughts exactly!

Taskmaster · 06-03-2016, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by jgoens

No shit..

8 year old thread..didn't notice until you mentioned it.
Speaking of cars, what mods are on yours F30lolz --never got the answer.

Awesome mods. Amazing mods. He had BMW call him to talk about his mods.
Look, he's donea lot of mods over the years and he knows how they work. When people are loooking to mod their cars, they don't ask BMW, Obama or China, they ask him. Let's make modding great again.

Yessir · 06-03-2016, 06:52 PM

Wow almost eight years to the day. So we know you bought a car for your buddy 16 years ago. Any improvement over the last 8 years OP?

F30lolz · 06-03-2016, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by jgoens

No shit..

8 year old thread..didn't notice until you mentioned it.
Speaking of cars, what mods are on yours F30lolz --never got the answer.

Previous owner never replied back to my message. Hit me up 305-992-7512 by text and I'll shoot you pics as I can't post on here for some dumb reason.

jgoens · 06-04-2016, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by TheAxiom

Awesome mods. Amazing mods. He had BMW call him to talk about his mods.
Look, he's donea lot of mods over the years and he knows how they work. When people are loooking to mod their cars, they don't ask BMW, Obama or China, they ask him. Let's make modding great again.

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Originally Posted by F30lolz

Previous owner never replied back to my message. Hit me up 305-992-7512 by text and I'll shoot you pics as I can't post on here for some dumb reason.

That is so deflating...if you want I can call that number and ask him...I'm pretty good at getting down to the point.

F30lolz · 06-04-2016, 03:47 AM

I don't have the previous owner's number as I FB messaged him last week. I plan on visiting my Indy by next Saturday to go over the car and I'll know some answers.

vsix · 06-04-2016, 03:55 AM

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Originally Posted by F30lolz

I don't have the previous owner's number as I FB messaged him last week. I plan on visiting my Indy by next Saturday to go over the car and I'll know some answers.

I really wouldn't do it. I remember an incident that happened a few years ago with an Wide body kit Porsche.

I really wouldn't do it. Not because I'm an ass, it's more the fact if the car would be an P.O.S. and causes alot of trouble for your friend in the long run.
...don't do it...

VB5ER · 06-04-2016, 04:27 AM

I've got a similar friend who just can't seem to get it together. I helped him buy a place about 5 years ago but it was only about 5 grand to "help out" and I had the extra so I didn't hurt myself to do it. It made a big difference for him and he got things together a little bit better after that. I would say that if you are that close to this guy buy a car but rent it to him at a low monthly rate that he can afford till he pays it off. If he can't handle that, just take the car back and sell it. That would help him out of his current situation, make you feel like you did something to help, and enable him a little less than just giving him a car.
Make sure you do some kind of loan or rent to own contract if the car is that much of an expense. Just a thought.

goj · 06-05-2016, 11:49 AM

Definitely not IMO

1MOREMOD · 06-05-2016, 11:50 AM

Yes if we are friends

Monster335 · 06-05-2016, 12:20 PM

Im in Chandler here, I dont want you to buy me a car but could you help me get into another one?

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

insanecoder · 06-05-2016, 12:32 PM

Yer a good man.. why not just let him take care of his issues by himself and step in when he really needs help & falls down a few rather than actively supporting him?
That way its more surprise help when its needed as opposed to an entitlement he will be expecting.

EL Jeffe 5 · 06-05-2016, 01:21 PM

You are one True Friend

Yes buy car if you can

WingZeroX5 · 06-05-2016, 01:44 PM

haha epic thread revival

Buy him the parts and tell him to figure it out

scm6079 · 11-19-2020, 03:33 PM

Okay - this thread was revived once before, so thought what the heck, let's do it again! So I took the advice of the forum and didn't buy him a new car. Instead, I helped him get a job. Fast forward a couple of years and he's been working full time, has his life on a better track, and bought himself a *new* car!

Thanks to everyone still around for the advice - it worked out.

RickFLM4 · 11-19-2020, 04:06 PM

So he’s about 47 now? Good think he’s working full-time. Now, about his retirement savings...

06-03-2016, 02:50 PM	#23
fecurtis Banned 3271 Rep 6,299 Posts Drives: 2014 BMW 335i M-Sport Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Arlington, VA iTrader: (0)	With reading just the title to the thread, I'm going to just say no, I don't care what the circumstances are. It's a great way to end a friendship doing stuff like that. EDIT: Just read your post. If you want to help him, help him get a job.
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06-03-2016, 06:52 PM	#31
Yessir Lieutenant 373 Rep 463 Posts Drives: car Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: california iTrader: (-1)	Wow almost eight years to the day. So we know you bought a car for your buddy 16 years ago. Any improvement over the last 8 years OP?
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06-04-2016, 04:27 AM	#36
VB5ER Second Lieutenant 177 Rep 257 Posts Drives: Space Grey 2011 535i Join Date: Jun 2015 Location: United States iTrader: (0)	I've got a similar friend who just can't seem to get it together. I helped him buy a place about 5 years ago but it was only about 5 grand to "help out" and I had the extra so I didn't hurt myself to do it. It made a big difference for him and he got things together a little bit better after that. I would say that if you are that close to this guy buy a car but rent it to him at a low monthly rate that he can afford till he pays it off. If he can't handle that, just take the car back and sell it. That would help him out of his current situation, make you feel like you did something to help, and enable him a little less than just giving him a car. Make sure you do some kind of loan or rent to own contract if the car is that much of an expense. Just a thought.
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06-05-2016, 11:49 AM	#37
goj Brigadier General 2253 Rep 3,622 Posts Drives: 2016 EBII 340i 6-MT Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Bay Area, CA iTrader: (0)	Definitely not IMO __________________ BMW CCA Member #516012 2016 340i, Estoril Blue, Manual Transmission, MPE, MPBBK, HRE FF04 Instagram: @brandons340i
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1MOREMOD - 11818 Rep 23,186 Posts Drives: Race car-> Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: check your mirrors iTrader: (5)	Yes if we are friends
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06-05-2016, 12:20 PM	#39
Monster335 Private First Class 234 Rep 159 Posts Drives: 2020 M4 Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: U.S.A. iTrader: (0)	Im in Chandler here, I dont want you to buy me a car but could you help me get into another one? give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime
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06-05-2016, 12:32 PM	#40
insanecoder Banned 1410 Rep 3,211 Posts Drives: 340isDrive Join Date: May 2016 Location: East Coast USA iTrader: (0)	Yer a good man.. why not just let him take care of his issues by himself and step in when he really needs help & falls down a few rather than actively supporting him? That way its more surprise help when its needed as opposed to an entitlement he will be expecting.
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06-05-2016, 01:21 PM	#41
EL Jeffe 5 Major 613 Rep 1,254 Posts Drives: CBR1000RR Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Iowa iTrader: (0)	You are one True Friend Yes buy car if you can
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06-05-2016, 01:44 PM	#42
WingZeroX5 Colonel 780 Rep 2,362 Posts Drives: F80 / F30 Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New Hampshire iTrader: (14)	haha epic thread revival Buy him the parts and tell him to figure it out
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11-19-2020, 03:33 PM	#43
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RickFLM4 Brigadier General 11803 Rep 4,870 Posts Drives: M4 Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: PB County, FL iTrader: (0)	So he’s about 47 now? Good think he’s working full-time. Now, about his retirement savings... __________________ Current: 2018 SO/SS F83 ZCP Gone: 2015 SO/SO F82
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