Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

1am update after my date:
not my worst date, but definitely up there. it's both a blessing and a curse that i'm good at acting interesting, but i just didn't feel that connection from either side.

definitely a chill girl, but we're polar opposites. she's a netflix and blankets kinda girl and i'm a "i gotta be active 24/7 otherwise i'll hate myself" kinda person... too chill, if anything.

maybe she active under the blanket lol

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Things have calmed down. She explained that she let her feelings get the best of her. She said she loves me a lot and that she doesn't want me to die.

Keep in mind, I'm not doing anything out of the ordinary to increase my chances of dying/getting killed.

Are all girls crazy?

That's awesome man! Glad to hear she came around. To answer your question in short.....yes; just like us, even the best of them have their off days. The thing to always keep in the back of your mind is that men are ruled by facts; women are ruled by emotion.

Originally Posted by dinonz

All women are bi. It's your job to guess if it's sexual or polar.

That's fantastic!

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Lol....but in 15+ years...those roles could reverse.

Probably not though. My wife has always been a "stay-in" type with a small circle of friends. Me....well you know how I am. 3 maybe 4 hours of sleep at night and then I'm climbing the walls to try and find something to do.

But it works out in the long run. We both compromise....plus I think every couple needs time away from each other for themselves. I get mine usually while she is sleeping. On the weekends...I'm usually up no later than 3:00am and she sleeps in until 10:00am or so. So I have plenty of time to do my own thing.

This! The girlfriend and I are polar opposites on certain things, but then when we are together, it seems the roles reverse. It's the craziest thing. If I'm alone, I'm 100 mph; being productive, efficient and making shit happen. When she is alone or with her kids, she is running 100 mph being mom or prepping to come see me. When we are together, we are either working together to get ready for the gym, go out to eat, go to a movie, etc. then it's downtime. The odd thing about our downtime is that it consists of me waiting on her hand and foot, while she relaxes or vice-versa. The point of all this is that being polar opposites works sometimes. It's good to have that ying to the yang.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

That's awesome man! Glad to hear she came around. To answer your question in short.....yes; just like us, even the best of them have their off days. The thing to always keep in the back of your mind is that men are ruled by facts; women are ruled by emotion.



That's fantastic!



This! The girlfriend and I are polar opposites on certain things, but then when we are together, it seems the roles reverse. It's the craziest thing. If I'm alone, I'm 100 mph; being productive, efficient and making shit happen. When she is alone or with her kids, she is running 100 mph being mom or prepping to come see me. When we are together, we are either working together to get ready for the gym, go out to eat, go to a movie, etc. then it's downtime. The odd thing about our downtime is that it consists of me waiting on her hand and foot, while she relaxes or vice-versa. The point of all this is that being polar opposites works sometimes. It's good to have that ying to the yang.

Opposites attract! No couple should have even close to all the same interests. Why would ya wanna date yourself?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Opposites attract! No couple should have even close to all the same interests. Why would ya wanna date yourself?

I don't know. If I was a woman, I'd date me. I'd date me hard. Unfortunately, most women don't know what I know about me.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, their lack of knowing what I know about me, probably keeps me out of a lot of trouble and my sanity intact.

[someguywithanm3]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

That's awesome man! Glad to hear she came around. To answer your question in short.....yes; just like us, even the best of them have their off days. The thing to always keep in the back of your mind is that men are ruled by facts; women are ruled by emotion.

Thank you sir.

It threw me off because she's usually pretty relaxed about things.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I don't know. If I was a woman, I'd date me. I'd date me hard. Unfortunately, most women don't know what I know about me.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, their lack of knowing what I know about me, probably keeps me out of a lot of trouble and my sanity intact.

Look man, you know that's not what I meant.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Lol....but in 15+ years...those roles could reverse.

Probably not though. My wife has always been a "stay-in" type with a small circle of friends. Me....well you know how I am. 3 maybe 4 hours of sleep at night and then I'm climbing the walls to try and find something to do.

But it works out in the long run. We both compromise....plus I think every couple needs time away from each other for themselves. I get mine usually while she is sleeping. On the weekends...I'm usually up no later than 3:00am and she sleeps in until 10:00am or so. So I have plenty of time to do my own thing.

15 years is a lot when i didn't even feel a connection the night we met lol, just didn't feel the need to even ask for a second date

Originally Posted by JP10

Need clarification on if you're looking for a relationship or just trying to get laid lol. Seems like you go on a solid bit of dates, but it never really works out. And from what you say this is mostly because of your interests. So with said, what's the point in all these dates. What are you looking for hombre? I know you're younger like me, hence the question.

honestly, I don't know. Maybe that's why "it never really works out" but honest to god i never thought of that, ive been on the "i'll go on dates to see what's what but if something good comes along the way i'll take it" train

I'll have to reflect and get back to you on this man

I also have been considering the potential aspect of me looking for someone when I myself not really am in that position. Think of like a 300lb obese guy chasing after gym bunnies. That does mean I have to dig deep and I don't really even know where to start with that lol

I really don't know, you asked a pretty good question

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by DocL

Do you even need to ask? LOL.

You have to remember one thing, women are irrational. Period.

You'd be crazy too if you had a wound that never healed.

[UncleWede]

It's been probably 25 years since I read the most important book in my life, but it still crosses into my frontal cortex when having an issue with my wife


Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

15 years is a lot when i didn't even feel a connection the night we met lol, just didn't feel the need to even ask for a second date


honestly, I don't know. Maybe that's why "it never really works out" but honest to god i never thought of that, ive been on the "i'll go on dates to see what's what but if something good comes along the way i'll take it" train

I'll have to reflect and get back to you on this man

I also have been considering the potential aspect of me looking for someone when I myself not really am in that position. Think of like a 300lb obese guy chasing after gym bunnies. That does mean I have to dig deep and I don't really even know where to start with that lol

I really don't know, you asked a pretty good question

This one is hard. When I started dating again....I had the mentality that it's all about me. Of course I wanted the other person to enjoy themselves as well, but all I knew was I wanted to have fun and had no intention of ever getting involved again.

It lasted 7 years. But it was when I least expected it did I meet my wife.

[JP10]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

honestly, I don't know. Maybe that's why "it never really works out" but honest to god i never thought of that, ive been on the "i'll go on dates to see what's what but if something good comes along the way i'll take it" train

I'll have to reflect and get back to you on this man

I also have been considering the potential aspect of me looking for someone when I myself not really am in that position. Think of like a 300lb obese guy chasing after gym bunnies. That does mean I have to dig deep and I don't really even know where to start with that lol

I really don't know, you asked a pretty good question

Yeah I was just curious man. Never know what to say when you post that it didn't work out because most time it doesn't really seem to bother you anyway. So in my head I just think well who gives a shit he'll go on another date in like three days hahaha. If you go out there with lower expectations of finding someone who you're really hoping to find a connection with you'll prolly have a better time!

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by JP10

Yeah I was just curious man. Never know what to say when you post that it didn't work out because most time it doesn't really seem to bother you anyway. So in my head I just think well who gives a shit he'll go on another date in like three days hahaha. If you go out there with lower expectations of finding someone who you're really hoping to find a connection with you'll prolly have a better time!

This. Putting too much pressure on yourself will pretty much eliminate any chance of letting someone in and connecting with them. It's impossible to really get to know someone after only a few hours. Usually first dates are just to decide whether the person should be avoided (not attracted to them, they are psycho, etc) or if you want to see them again. I think online dating is a huge disadvantage to society in this sense, because it allows you to form an opinion/perception of someone before you even meet them. Many people seem way more attractive in their pictures than in real life, and on the contrary some people are a lot more attractive in person because of their personality. Like any guy, a cute girl will catch my eye but a flirty, sexy, and playful personality is what really draws me in.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

This. Putting too much pressure on yourself will pretty much eliminate any chance of letting someone in and connecting with them. It's impossible to really get to know someone after only a few hours. Usually first dates are just to decide whether the person should be avoided (not attracted to them, they are psycho, etc) or if you want to see them again. I think online dating is a huge disadvantage to society in this sense, because it allows you to form an opinion/perception of someone before you even meet them. Many people seem way more attractive in their pictures than in real life, and on the contrary some people are a lot more attractive in person because of their personality. Like any guy, a cute girl will catch my eye but a flirty, sexy, and playful personality is what really draws me in.

& who knows, even if they are not relationship material, you still might get laid.

[Turkish Pickle]

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

Pizza. Delivered.

[Kelse92]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

If its a date, she would probably appreciate salmon or chicken on alfredo pasta. Side of something green.

[andrewmr]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

Unless you know she likes salmon, I'd go with chicken.

For a totally different approach..... how about some tricolor tortellini. Pick the stuffing that you think she might like most. Perhaps even a couple different flavors and let her pick.

And as you said, a nice green salad.

Most important, stop by your local place that has the best Tiramisu for after dinner.

[FuzzyPeaches]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

Like others said, I'd go with chicken, marinated in Italian dressing if you have time. I also used to add some sun-dried tomatoes and a little bit of broccoli to the alfredo sauce to give it a little color.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

Well since I'm of Italian descent...I couldn't sit this one out.

Chicken Marsala. It's a quick dish that can be as easy or complex as you want to make it. Look at all the options online.

Even if she's not Italian...I'm sure she would enjoy it.

I always stayed away from fish with anyone until I had actually seen them order it when out...after that I knew it would be okay.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Well since I'm of Italian descent...I couldn't sit this one out.

Chicken Marsala. It's a quick dish that can be as easy or complex as you want to make it. Look at all the options online.

Even if she's not Italian...I'm sure she would enjoy it.

I always stayed away from fish with anyone until I had actually seen them order it when out...after that I knew it would be okay.

I think I agree here. I was trying to think of something easy. I would not do the Alfredo.

Another easy option is Chicken Milanese - also known as fried chicken cutlets with a nice salad with some shaved parm and a lemon olive oil dressing. And fresh garlic bread is really easy.

[JP10]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

I'm sitting this one out man. I'm a fan of Italian food, but it is most likely the type of food I eat least of. Every now and again I crave it, but not often haha. Agree w/ the other comments regarding the salmon. It's easy to mess up, not difficult by any means but when I first prepared it I botched it a few times. You have to consider the aroma in the place if it's for a date. Don't want that joint smelling fishy! Chicks love a classic chicken Parmesan though. Easy to make just throw some pasta underneath, doctor up that sauce and you're good to go!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Now_Rudi cmyx6go MKSixer Joekerr Rmtt @jp10 @ctinline-six and other friends who i forgot to tag

quick and easy Italian dinner options to make at home please? I'm thinking alfredo pasta and salmon because both are easy to make but am open to suggestions

A tombstone pizza sprinkled with roofies.

I kid.

I typically kept a handful of meals in my arsenal for quick and easy dinners. None of which are Italian (aside from the marinade) but I'll share anyway.

1. Chicken marinated in Italian dressing. I usually marinate the chicken for at least 24 hours, so this requires some prepping. For sides, I usually go with a fresh salad, some rice, and garlic bread. Kick on the grill Med-Hi heat, once the temp is above 375 but not over 450, 4 minutes each side and it should be perfect. I still cook this a few times a month for myself.

2. Grilled filet mignon or New York Strip. Super easy. Set the meat out and let it get room temp. Add generous Kosher salt and ground black pepper to each side of the steak. Kick on the grill (I use gas for ease, I'm a bachelor; not a professional chef - the fact that I'm cooking for them and they aren't getting McDonald's already puts me over the top.) high heat. Once the grill is to temp, seer for 2 minutes on high heat, then lower the heat to Med-Hi and rotate (not flip) 45 degrees (this makes nice even black lines); cook for 3 minutes and flip. Keep the heat the same and after 2 minutes rotate 45 degrees. At this temperature, another minute will be rare, another minute will be medium rare, another minute will be medium......if she wants it cooked beyond medium; kick her ass out and eat it your damn self and be glad she is gone. She would have most likely covered it in ketchup anyway.

3. If you want to get her involved - this is only for girlfriend material. I have only actually cooked with 4 women my entire life - 2 were wives, one is a really close friend and the other is the current girlfriend of 3 years. Marinade chicken in Italian dressing. Marinade steak in either Alegro (if you don't know, just go get some - everything is delicious in this shit - burgers, steaks, chicken, pork, etc.) or sometimes I mix a combination of Worcestershire sauce, Soy sauce, lemon juice, minced garlic, and a 20 oz. bottle of coke. Cut up red/green peppers and onions into 2" X 2" squares, the meat also needs to be in 2" X 2" squares for uniformity - style points....she'll notice. Throw all the peppers and onions into a bowl, add olive oil, then add kosher salt and ground black pepper. Either have metal skewer sticks or make sure you soak some bamboo sticks in water at least an hour or so before they make it to the grill. Once everything is marinated and ready to go, skewer that shit up. Fire up the grill. I recommend doing separate skewers for just chicken and just steak. This way if she likes her steak less or more cooked than the chicken, you don't end up with dry ass chicken. This is the meal you throw at them when you want them to follow you around like a lost puppy. Sides: rice, salad and garlic bread is always a staple.

Play on young pickle and let us know how it goes.