Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[FuriouslyFast]

So how many guys here just go to Target & pick up all the lovely ladies there? lol

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

So how many guys here just go to Target & pick up all the lovely ladies there? lol

Fancy guy huh...so you just skip Wal-Mart altogether?!?

[Turkish Pickle]

gents, got a question for you

the first girl i had a thing with on campus painted me something, and i've been hanging it up at my apartments/dorm ever since. today the frame fell (dont get the cheap alternative to comand strips), and i saw the date on the back again after a LONG time: december 2016

ive kept on hanging it because it's a painting and i like how it looks, but i'm also torn between holding on to something that was given to me with that context, almost 3 years ago. stuff ended roughly 2-2.5 years ago too, and so much stuff happened over that time i just don't feel like getting a new frame.

should i just find a new painting?

[Haystack]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

gents, got a question for you

the first girl i had a thing with on campus painted me something, and i've been hanging it up at my apartments/dorm ever since. today the frame fell (dont get the cheap alternative to comand strips), and i saw the date on the back again after a LONG time: december 2016

ive kept on hanging it because it's a painting and i like how it looks, but i'm also torn between holding on to something that was given to me with that context, almost 3 years ago. stuff ended roughly 2-2.5 years ago too, and so much stuff happened over that time i just don't feel like getting a new frame.

should i just find a new painting?

Break the wrist, walk away.

Break the wrist.




Walk away

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

gents, got a question for you

the first girl i had a thing with on campus painted me something, and i've been hanging it up at my apartments/dorm ever since. today the frame fell (dont get the cheap alternative to comand strips), and i saw the date on the back again after a LONG time: december 2016

ive kept on hanging it because it's a painting and i like how it looks, but i'm also torn between holding on to something that was given to me with that context, almost 3 years ago. stuff ended roughly 2-2.5 years ago too, and so much stuff happened over that time i just don't feel like getting a new frame.

should i just find a new painting?

Depends on how much you like the painting. I still got shit that past women I've dated bought for me. It's amazing when they have money....and just show up with...oh I picked this up today for you hoping to score points.

But all that was materialistic. A painting is a lot deeper, someone invested some thought into that.

I had a similiar scenario. I had one that a girl did for me that was very nice. It wasn't framed until I found it when moving. I had it nicely framed and have it hanging in my office now.

One....it's a conversation piece....Two......who knows if she doesn't get famous one day as she was really talented. If so.....I have an original early work of hers!!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

gents, got a question for you

the first girl i had a thing with on campus painted me something, and i've been hanging it up at my apartments/dorm ever since. today the frame fell (dont get the cheap alternative to comand strips), and i saw the date on the back again after a LONG time: december 2016

ive kept on hanging it because it's a painting and i like how it looks, but i'm also torn between holding on to something that was given to me with that context, almost 3 years ago. stuff ended roughly 2-2.5 years ago too, and so much stuff happened over that time i just don't feel like getting a new frame.

should i just find a new painting?

I still have a few things that ex's gave to me in my home. It all depends on the item, the relationship I had with the person, how it ended and how it makes me feel when I see the item. If it causes me emotional strife when I look at it, it isn't worth keeping around. Two scenarios here: The ex-wife (the crazy, adulterous, narcissistic one) "made" me a picture of an owl and framed it for Valentine's Day years ago. She stated that she drew it and painted it for me. She did not. It was a page cut out of a coloring book that she did paint with water colors that maybe took 10 minutes to do as it was all painted with the same color.....black. So many metaphors here. I keep it as reminder of who she was, a liar and a terrible dark person. It doesn't make feel angry when I look at it, but it does remind me to be careful of the people that I allow in to my life. Item 2 was a hand hammered cross that came from a metal worker at a Catholic church in New Mexico. A gift from the same person. I collect weird religious items from varying religions because I don't really believe in any of them. I have hand made prayer bowls, prayer flags, beads, etc. The cross she bought for me while on a trip she made out there. I found out later that she had slept with a friend of mine the same week she came back and gave me the cross. Looking at that evoked emotions, so I got rid of it.

If the painting doesn't bring negative feelings or thoughts, keep it. As an artist myself, it's kind of a slap in the face when we devote time and put ourselves into something, especially when created for a person specifically, that doesn't appreciate it enough to keep it.

Originally Posted by Haystack

Break the wrist, walk away.

Break the wrist.




Walk away

That's pretty funny.

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Depends on how much you like the painting. I still got shit that past women I've dated bought for me. It's amazing when they have money....and just show up with...oh I picked this up today for you hoping to score points.

But all that was materialistic. A painting is a lot deeper, someone invested some thought into that.

I had a similiar scenario. I had one that a girl did for me that was very nice. It wasn't framed until I found it when moving. I had it nicely framed and have it hanging in my office now.

One....it's a conversation piece....Two......who knows if she doesn't get famous one day as she was really talented. If so.....I have an original early work of hers!!

This.

I get random messages, on occasion, from old friends, former girlfriends and whatnot of artwork that I made for them. It always makes me smile to know that they have kept those things for all these years. It also reminds me of who I was back then, where I was mentally, emotionally and reminds me of where I was when I created it. Almost like a time capsule of memories that I had forgotten of my own life.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I still have a few things that ex's gave to me in my home. It all depends on the item, the relationship I had with the person, how it ended and how it makes me feel when I see the item. If it causes me emotional strife when I look at it, it isn't worth keeping around. Two scenarios here: The ex-wife (the crazy, adulterous, narcissistic one) "made" me a picture of an owl and framed it for Valentine's Day years ago. She stated that she drew it and painted it for me. She did not. It was a page cut out of a coloring book that she did paint with water colors that maybe took 10 minutes to do as it was all painted with the same color.....black. So many metaphors here. I keep it as reminder of who she was, a liar and a terrible dark person. It doesn't make feel angry when I look at it, but it does remind me to be careful of the people that I allow in to my life. Item 2 was a hand hammered cross that came from a metal worker at a Catholic church in New Mexico. A gift from the same person. I collect weird religious items from varying religions because I don't really believe in any of them. I have hand made prayer bowls, prayer flags, beads, etc. The cross she bought for me while on a trip she made out there. I found out later that she had slept with a friend of mine the same week she came back and gave me the cross. Looking at that evoked emotions, so I got rid of it.

If the painting doesn't bring negative feelings or thoughts, keep it. As an artist myself, it's kind of a slap in the face when we devote time and put ourselves into something, especially when created for a person specifically, that doesn't appreciate it enough to keep it.



That's pretty funny.



This.

I get random messages, on occasion, from old friends, former girlfriends and whatnot of artwork that I made for them. It always makes me smile to know that they have kept those things for all these years. It also reminds me of who I was back then, where I was mentally, emotionally and reminds me of where I was when I created it. Almost like a time capsule of memories that I had forgotten of my own life.

Oh damn man, sorry to hear that. We recently caught a cheater on the Chicagoland car spotters page; some dude posted a pic of a car and in the background was a girl and a guy hugging.
Then this other guy goes "hold up that's my girl" and he posted all the texts and everything, of course hella denial and "it's an investment we both need to invest"

Honestly tho it doesn't bring any form of negativity. If anything, as much as I was angry afterwards it literally was a learning experience for me; if i didn't get fucked over at the end I probably wouldn't be here. So yes although it sounds like there's a bad context to it, I'm an optimistic guy so I'll take it.

I'm going to buy a frame for it this afternoon, was debating it since Friday to be honest - we still talk every now and then but she's in the city, with a new guy, I'm in school etc. Plus, there's a reason why exes are exes but she's maybe like the only girl who doesn't despise me after breaking things off

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I still have a few things that ex's gave to me in my home. It all depends on the item, the relationship I had with the person, how it ended and how it makes me feel when I see the item. If it causes me emotional strife when I look at it, it isn't worth keeping around. Two scenarios here: The ex-wife (the crazy, adulterous, narcissistic one) "made" me a picture of an owl and framed it for Valentine's Day years ago. She stated that she drew it and painted it for me. She did not. It was a page cut out of a coloring book that she did paint with water colors that maybe took 10 minutes to do as it was all painted with the same color.....black. So many metaphors here. I keep it as reminder of who she was, a liar and a terrible dark person. It doesn't make feel angry when I look at it, but it does remind me to be careful of the people that I allow in to my life. Item 2 was a hand hammered cross that came from a metal worker at a Catholic church in New Mexico. A gift from the same person. I collect weird religious items from varying religions because I don't really believe in any of them. I have hand made prayer bowls, prayer flags, beads, etc. The cross she bought for me while on a trip she made out there. I found out later that she had slept with a friend of mine the same week she came back and gave me the cross. Looking at that evoked emotions, so I got rid of it.

If the painting doesn't bring negative feelings or thoughts, keep it. As an artist myself, it's kind of a slap in the face when we devote time and put ourselves into something, especially when created for a person specifically, that doesn't appreciate it enough to keep it.



That's pretty funny.



This.

I get random messages, on occasion, from old friends, former girlfriends and whatnot of artwork that I made for them. It always makes me smile to know that they have kept those things for all these years. It also reminds me of who I was back then, where I was mentally, emotionally and reminds me of where I was when I created it. Almost like a time capsule of memories that I had forgotten of my own life.

Yup, I got rid of anything that caused me pain when I looked at it after each relationship. I have other stuff from past bitches, but it's stuff I use & don't think of them at all.

[FuriouslyFast]

I love when women EXPECT me to cook for them right off the bat. No, that is earned. Last one I said that to got upset & said "What have you earned? It's 50/50 hun."

Keep in mind we went on ONE date. I told her she has issues & blocked her #

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Yup, I got rid of anything that caused me pain when I looked at it after each relationship. I have other stuff from past bitches, but it's stuff I use & don't think of them at all.

Oh yeah - my shower curtain hooks are copper-coated because my ex from sophomore year bought them for me as a gift

she was hot but we don't think about that every time we take a shower

[Dang3r]

You know what, actually in my opinion are former GF's are the most danger for active relationships or marriages, especially when you're never really finished with it - from both sides.
There was this woman for 17 years ago, we had a more short and on sex based relation, it had ended for some reasons, wasn't the right time for both of us to extend it.
But, we had kept the contact very loose via mails, meanwhile she's married with 3 kids, house and job and she's lucky with it.
Since I got a cellphone just for What's App I gave her my number for no special reasons, just for short texting if we're in the mood for. At a late evening in April this year she'd knocked on the phone, wifey was gone to bed and so I had a little time to start the conversation. To keep a longer story short: The following talks are moving from high emotional disputes over laughing at old jokes and back. Meanwhile we'd reached a balanced chat without too much feelings and jibes. Just chatting over the life and other things.
Now, a very good friend of mine is moving down to Spain at the beginning of October, I am the second truck driver for the long journey and guess what, the route is bringing me so fuqing close to her, that I could easy spit from the motorway over to her house. I told her this and at this point we'd determined a slight change within the chats, it was going the direction "what about a meeting" and so on. At least she'd admitted that she couldn't meet me in person, because she wants to keep her perfect world up and wasn't sure what happened to us, if we're meet each other. So were my thoughts, Im not interested to risk my relationship just for calling the ghosts again.
But if Im absolutely honest to myself, I cought me for seconds at some monents to think about it though and Im sure that she would have the same events.

[nyalpine90]

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

You know what, actually in my opinion are former GF's are the most danger for active relationships or marriages, especially when you're never really finished with it - from both sides.
There was this woman for 17 years ago, we had a more short and on sex based relation, it had ended for some reasons, wasn't the right time for both of us to extend it.
But, we had kept the contact very loose via mails, meanwhile she's married with 3 kids, house and job and she's lucky with it.
Since I got a cellphone just for What's App I gave her my number for no special reasons, just for short texting if we're in the mood for. At a late evening in April this year she'd knocked on the phone, wifey was gone to bed and so I had a little time to start the conversation. To keep a longer story short: The following talks are moving from high emotional disputes over laughing at old jokes and back. Meanwhile we'd reached a balanced chat without too much feelings and jibes. Just chatting over the life and other things.
Now, a very good friend of mine is moving down to Spain at the beginning of October, I am the second truck driver for the long journey and guess what, the route is bringing me so fuqing close to her, that I could easy spit from the motorway over to her house. I told her this and at this point we'd determined a slight change within the chats, it was going the direction "what about a meeting" and so on. At least she'd admitted that she couldn't meet me in person, because she wants to keep her perfect world up and wasn't sure what happened to us, if we're meet each other. So were my thoughts, Im not interested to risk my relationship just for calling the ghosts again.
But if Im absolutely honest to myself, I cought me for seconds at some monents to think about it though and Im sure that she would have the same events.

You're both cheating on your SOs. Stop.

[upstatedoc]

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

she was hot but we don't think about that every time we take a shower

LIAR!!!!!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

You're both cheating on your SOs. Stop.

they seemingly agreed on not meeting so i don't really see the issue

Originally Posted by UncleWede

LIAR!!!!!

onto better and smaller things! she was tall but boy did she get fat

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

they seemingly agreed on not meeting so i don't really see the issue

Correct. What's a bit fascinating is the fact, that just the talking about had brought us out of balance...and that since this very long time.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

they seemingly agreed on not meeting so i don't really see the issue



onto better and smaller things! she was tall but boy did she get fat

Emotionally cheating.

[Turkish Pickle]

is no one getting laid lately?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

is no one getting laid lately?

Every damn day.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Every damn day.

Same here...I thought that was the norm.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

is no one getting laid lately?

I've got a lunch date. First time we've met, so I doubt I'm getting laid but if it happens I can't wait for it to be over so I can come tell you all about it!