"Lazy" GF... How to motivate?

DETRoadster · 05-22-2018, 09:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Would you rather have a size 0 girlfriend who goes to the gym but doesn't work?

I think the answer to that is a resounding "yes" as the OP seems to place more importance on her failure to hit the gym than her ability to hold down a high power, high stress job.

Maynard · 05-22-2018, 09:57 AM

Like a sick fascination I can't turn away. Sort of hoping this is a troll thread, and not a real example - the 'douchebags drive bimmers' cliché is bad enough w/o this fodder to fuel it. And loving the kickboxing angle - I'd contribute to a gofundme page for her to kick out some teeth if we get pictures.

CTinline-six · 05-22-2018, 11:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

Being married in 2018 is no picnic either. Social media has become a catalyst for human nature to turn awry. I can't blame the internet or social media for increase in infidelity as we are the ones using it. Much like bullets can't be blamed for murder, people are the ones pulling the trigger. People tend to screw up everything, marriage, dating, etc.

Good point, I also think the health of the relationship plays a big part in this as well. I've had girls flirt with me while I was in a relationship, but since I was happy I just kind of played it off or ignored it. When people are unhappy, they are more likely to seek out other attention or give in to temptation from others.

I think the sexualization of everything (ads, movies, facebook, snapchat, music, etc) does increase the temptation for people to stray away from relationships though.

JimVonBaden · 05-22-2018, 12:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

She works 50+ hours a week, in a pretty stressful management position, travels a lot and she's lazy? Seriously? I don't have the time to read through the pages and pages of responses. A lazy GF sits on the couch all day while you're out working. Sounds to me like you have different priorities or you have some other issues going on, otherwise maybe you would understand she's stressed out and the clothes on the bed in the spare bedroom are insignificant. Any idea how stressful business travel can be? And I'm sure if she's management, she is always expected to be plugged in and responding to emails and issues. Get over it. Would you rather have a size 0 girlfriend who goes to the gym but doesn't work?

Waiting for the flames....

Basically what I said.

cmyx6go · 05-22-2018, 12:23 PM

This is like train wreck, I can't look away. I keep saying I don't have the time to read all the comments but I can't stop. I thought him saying she wants to do couples things but he's too busy doing stuff he likes to do that she doesn't was bad. Now I see he won't pick her up because he just had his car detailed?!?!? Seriously?

cmyx6go · 05-22-2018, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JimVonBaden

Basically what I said.

I know that now.

I said that after I read the first page saying I didn't have time to read everything. I got sucked in to this now....

Alpine300zhp · 05-22-2018, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Quote:

Originally Posted by qba335i

How do you motivate your GFs/partners?

My girlfriend is in sales (management role), travels pretty frequently and works 50+ hours a week. Her job is pretty stressful/demanding and by the time she gets home all she wants to do it lay on the couch (nap), watch mindless TV and sit on Instagram.

I am trying to motivate her to do something outside of work, but it's not going well. She is pretty sensitive (and I am very direct) so it always ends up in an argument that she is not good enough for me and that our jobs are different... and it goes downhill pretty fast.

Example: She was traveling most of last week - came back home on Friday night. On Tuesday around 6pm I told her that by the time I get back from gym (9:30PM) she has to organize her clothes as they were all over the second bedroom and finally clean the receipts (she needs to submit them for reimbursement and they were on the table since Sunday). I also mentioned that it's a 4th day that she is on the couch and it would be nice if she finally signed up for gym... Fast forward a few days and she is still beyond pissed.

She works 50+ hours a week, in a pretty stressful management position, travels a lot and she's lazy? Seriously? I don't have the time to read through the pages and pages of responses. A lazy GF sits on the couch all day while you're out working. Sounds to me like you have different priorities or you have some other issues going on, otherwise maybe you would understand she's stressed out and the clothes on the bed in the spare bedroom are insignificant. Any idea how stressful business travel can be? And I'm sure if she's management, she is always expected to be plugged in and responding to emails and issues. Get over it. Would you rather have a size 0 girlfriend who goes to the gym but doesn't work?

Waiting for the flames....

Spot on....

Alpine300zhp · 05-22-2018, 12:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Quote:

Originally Posted by JimVonBaden

Basically what I said.

I know that now.

I said that after I read the first page saying I didn't have time to read everything. I got sucked in to this now....

Interesting to see you in off topic L. You don't usually post in these parts. Hope all is well with you.

Maynard · 05-22-2018, 12:52 PM

The bit about not getting her b/c of the detailing got me too - I mean, who hasn't refused to pick up the love of their life when it was raining because you wanted to keep the car nice - but YOU DON"T TELL THEM THAT!!! You make up something like that it says in the manual that the intercooler needs another 500 mile break in before it can get wet, or you haven't finished rebuilding the turbo aperture or something. SMH.

cmyx6go · 05-22-2018, 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alpine300zhp

Interesting to see you in off topic L. You don't usually post in these parts. Hope all is well with you.

All is well, thanks. They don't have a wavey smilie here

I couldn't resist this one, being an old lady compared to this crew, my head is about to explode. Good to see you around.

King Rudi · 05-22-2018, 12:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Good point, I also think the health of the relationship plays a big part in this as well. I've had girls flirt with me while I was in a relationship, but since I was happy I just kind of played it off or ignored it. When people are unhappy, they are more likely to seek out other attention or give in to temptation from others.

I think the sexualization of everything (ads, movies, facebook, snapchat, music, etc) does increase the temptation for people to stray away from relationships though.

Agreed.

Never_Enough · 05-22-2018, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Good point, I also think the health of the relationship plays a big part in this as well. I've had girls flirt with me while I was in a relationship, but since I was happy I just kind of played it off or ignored it. When people are unhappy, they are more likely to seek out other attention or give in to temptation from others.

I think the sexualization of everything (ads, movies, facebook, snapchat, music, etc) does increase the temptation for people to stray away from relationships though.

True. I'll also add that cheating happens a lot because this digital age has made it far too easy to simply walk away & start over with the a new guy/girl vs actually put the effort needed into your relationship. Ask me how I know. People are generally lazy lying assholes anymore. Dating is hell right now. Wear a helmet.

E46M3forRay · 05-23-2018, 12:55 AM

Just be blunt with her. Tell her that you’re horny after you hit the gym and be ready to have sex at 9:30pm

... amirite?

UncleWede · 05-23-2018, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by E46M3forRay

Just be blunt with her. Tell her that you’re horny after you hit the gym and be ready to have sex at 9:30pm

... amirite?

Explain this word "tell" in the above situation?????

1MOREMOD · 05-23-2018, 02:01 PM

Say this dick ain't gonna suck itself?

FlaPatsFan · 05-23-2018, 02:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UncleWede

Explain this word "tell" in the above situation?????

Depending on who wears the “pants” in the relationship “tell” could also mean “request”

GT_Man · 05-24-2018, 08:39 AM

Throw her on her mess of clothes and go down on her. 20 mins or so. she will jump up put all her clothes away and make you a sammich. if not your queer

05-22-2018, 09:57 AM	#288
Maynard Colonel 4205 Rep 2,962 Posts Drives: 228iX & M2C Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: Upstate NY iTrader: (1)	Like a sick fascination I can't turn away. Sort of hoping this is a troll thread, and not a real example - the 'douchebags drive bimmers' cliché is bad enough w/o this fodder to fuel it. And loving the kickboxing angle - I'd contribute to a gofundme page for her to kick out some teeth if we get pictures.
	Appreciate 4 upstatedoc7534.50 cmyx6go16838.50 JimVonBaden907.50 MightyMouseTech4344.00 Quote

05-22-2018, 12:23 PM	#291
cmyx6go Colonel 16839 Rep 2,088 Posts Drives: 2022 X6///M Comp Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: NYC iTrader: (2) Garage List 2019 X6 ///M [10.00]	This is like train wreck, I can't look away. I keep saying I don't have the time to read all the comments but I can't stop. I thought him saying she wants to do couples things but he's too busy doing stuff he likes to do that she doesn't was bad. Now I see he won't pick her up because he just had his car detailed?!?!? Seriously?
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-22-2018, 12:52 PM	#295
Maynard Colonel 4205 Rep 2,962 Posts Drives: 228iX & M2C Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: Upstate NY iTrader: (1)	The bit about not getting her b/c of the detailing got me too - I mean, who hasn't refused to pick up the love of their life when it was raining because you wanted to keep the car nice - but YOU DON"T TELL THEM THAT!!! You make up something like that it says in the manual that the intercooler needs another 500 mile break in before it can get wet, or you haven't finished rebuilding the turbo aperture or something. SMH.
	Appreciate 1 IllSic_Design2125.00 Quote

05-23-2018, 12:55 AM	#299
E46M3forRay Güdentyte 1245 Rep 1,227 Posts Drives: GT3 & 1M Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: SF Bay Area iTrader: (9) Garage List 2023 Model 3 [6.50] 2022 T4R TRD Pro [5.00] 2011 1M [8.00] 2014 991.1 GT3 [10.00]	Just be blunt with her. Tell her that you’re horny after you hit the gym and be ready to have sex at 9:30pm ... amirite? __________________ CURRENT - 991 GT3 \| Future Classic 1M \| Model 3 \| T4R TRD Pro Lime Rush SOLD - MB M2 CS \| SMB F80 M3 CS \| E90 M3 \| E90 335i \| E46 M3 Vert \| E39 M5 \| E34 525i
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-23-2018, 02:01 PM	#301
1MOREMOD - 11820 Rep 23,186 Posts Drives: Race car-> Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: check your mirrors iTrader: (5)	Say this dick ain't gonna suck itself?
	Appreciate 1 KillBill99913.50 Quote

05-24-2018, 08:39 AM	#303
GT_Man Banned 29 Rep 83 Posts Drives: BMW 3 Series GT Join Date: Dec 2017 Location: london iTrader: (0)	Throw her on her mess of clothes and go down on her. 20 mins or so. she will jump up put all her clothes away and make you a sammich. if not your queer
	Appreciate 1 upstatedoc7534.50 Quote