The OFFICIAL online dating thread!

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by RABAUKE

Sorry, I think my point was how fucked up folks on on-line dating can be.....

Don't care, pics or GTFO...

[natedog7700]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Yup, typical online dating. I've met plenty that use old pics before they put on weight. I know men do it too. Do these idiots really think no one will notice or care? Also met one that managed to hide her wonky eye in her pics. Yea, that was fun.




How'd that happen? I only get dudes telling me nice cars on IG.

Back when me and my buddy were single he planned a blind date wirh a girl off POF. She looked like she was 180-200lbs (my buddy is a little chubby so fair game) and when we met up, she looked closer to 400. We lasted about 10 minutes at the bar before we dipped lol no thanks

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

I'm talking to this girl on tinder...and she's literally the Picture perfect girl for me.

Green eyes.
Brunette.
Fit and a huge ass.

But fuck me she's so plain/boring

[Mingwan]

^its a trap.

[RABAUKE]

Originally Posted by smoosh

Don't care, pics or GTFO...

.

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by RABAUKE

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Woah, you actually delivered!

[RABAUKE]

Originally Posted by smoosh

Woah, you actually delivered!

I do what I can.

[Germanauto]

Got ghosted on by somebody else after she found out we live 2 hrs apart.

Kicked in the nuts twice in 6 days.

[zentanker]

I've never used a dating site, but both of my wives I did meet online

[Samurai of 2day]

After doing the bachelor thing for quite some time, I'm a bit bummed out from getting rejected by the first girl I've put some actual effort into in a few years, so I've decided to try the online dating thing for the first time.

After starting the profile building process, the app was asking for a profile pic, I realized that I should stop right there because I'm not attractive physically... not even in the slightest, lol.

Funny how I check most of the blocks females claim to be looking for or attracted to in a guy, but at the end of the day, we all know that if you're not hot, then you're just not, lol

I won't resort to putting up fake pics like others have had to deal with, so I guess online dating won't work for me, either.

Disclaimer: the only reason I'm posting here about thus is because if I said this to anyone who actually knows me, they would try to feed me the standard comforting lines most people hear after being rejected by someone... I prefer the ugly truth over a pretty lie any day, and this is the place to face the ugly truths, lol

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by Samurai of 2day

After doing the bachelor thing for quite some time, I'm a bit bummed out from getting rejected by the first girl I've put some actual effort into in a few years, so I've decided to try the online dating thing for the first time.

After starting the profile building process, the app was asking for a profile pic, I realized that I should stop right there because I'm not attractive physically... not even in the slightest, lol.

Funny how I check most of the blocks females claim to be looking for or attracted to in a guy, but at the end of the day, we all know that if you're not hot, then you're just not, lol

I won't resort to putting up fake pics like others have had to deal with, so I guess online dating won't work for me, either.

Disclaimer: the only reason I'm posting here about thus is because if I said this to anyone who actually knows me, they would try to feed me the standard comforting lines most people hear after being rejected by someone... I prefer the ugly truth over a pretty lie any day, and this is the place to face the ugly truths, lol

But see man, the honest truth is attractiveness is subjective...attractiveness runs a hell of a lot deeper than superficially, as well.

If you don't feel online dating does you justice because of what you look like in still photos, then don't waste your time on it.

I could get a lot deeper, but I want to keep it simple and straight forward. Your best bet is to maximize your potential to find an ideal significant other. This means, portray yourself how you would want an ideal significant other to portray herself. Be well groomed, work out, challenge yourself intellectually, find things that make you happy and stick to them, pick up skills and perfect them, get around to finally learning the piano you've said you've wanted to learn for years...

I don't like the phrase, "I know I'm not attractive." Because the truth is ANYONE can be attractive if they maximize their potential. If you have a charm to you, or if you're wicked smart, or outrageously funny, or unusually caring and kind...I guaran-fucking-tee you, you will be more attractive than average. Guarantee it. If you aren't particularly good looking with facial features, height, build, etc., and nothing else stands out about you like humor, wit, kindness ...then yes, you'll never be attractive...but it's because you haven't maximized your potential, not because you just inherently don't have "those" genes.

Anyone can be funny, witty, caring, etc. The key is, find out what qualities about YOU stick out. What do you enjoy doing? What are your strengths? What do others enjoy about you?

The important thing is that you continue to better yourself every single day. Every day when you wake up, the first thing on your mind should be, "How can I improve myself today?" When you have this mindset, that'll be the first step towards maximizing your potential. The next step is to actually DO those things.

Don't care about whether this bitch or that bitch finds you attractive. Don't care. Fuck 'em all. Your only objective is, how can you be the best version of yourself? And in your pursuit of becoming the best version of yourself, I promise you, you'll attract the most attractive women. And only THEN will you realize that attractiveness runs deeper than superficially.

It's a lot of work - finding out what your weaknesses are and flipping them into your strengths - but it's the ones who DO flip their weaknesses into their strengths that succeed most in life, not just in relationships, but everything else.

[geogerf]

I think once you've decided you are going to "date" - just have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable to all kinds of rejection. Its not like you'll know whether someone has rejected your picture when flipping through.

Like I said before 90% of what's out there is fake, and in the other 10% maybe only 10% of those will like you. You only need one tho

[Samurai of 2day]

Originally Posted by smoosh

But see man, the honest truth is attractiveness is subjective...attractiveness runs a hell of a lot deeper than superficially, as well.

If you don't feel online dating does you justice because of what you look like in still photos, then don't waste your time on it.

I could get a lot deeper, but I want to keep it simple and straight forward. Your best bet is to maximize your potential to find an ideal significant other. This means, portray yourself how you would want an ideal significant other to portray herself. Be well groomed, work out, challenge yourself intellectually, find things that make you happy and stick to them, pick up skills and perfect them, get around to finally learning the piano you've said you've wanted to learn for years...

I don't like the phrase, "I know I'm not attractive." Because the truth is ANYONE can be attractive if they maximize their potential. If you have a charm to you, or if you're wicked smart, or outrageously funny, or unusually caring and kind...I guaran-fucking-tee you, you will be more attractive than average. Guarantee it. If you aren't particularly good looking with facial features, height, build, etc., and nothing else stands out about you like humor, wit, kindness ...then yes, you'll never be attractive...but it's because you haven't maximized your potential, not because you just inherently don't have "those" genes.

Anyone can be funny, witty, caring, etc. The key is, find out what qualities about YOU stick out. What do you enjoy doing? What are your strengths? What do others enjoy about you?

The important thing is that you continue to better yourself every single day. Every day when you wake up, the first thing on your mind should be, "How can I improve myself today?" When you have this mindset, that'll be the first step towards maximizing your potential. The next step is to actually DO those things.

Don't care about whether this bitch or that bitch finds you attractive. Don't care. Fuck 'em all. Your only objective is, how can you be the best version of yourself? And in your pursuit of becoming the best version of yourself, I promise you, you'll attract the most attractive women. And only THEN will you realize that attractiveness runs deeper than superficially.

It's a lot of work - finding out what your weaknesses are and flipping them into your strengths - but it's the ones who DO flip their weaknesses into their strengths that succeed most in life, not just in relationships, but everything else.

very well said, and I truly appreciate the time you put into your reply.

You're right, of course. I've seen it many times over the years. Guys that are typical douche bags (comes with the profession) have beautiful wives... and or nice girlfriends their wives have either accepted or are unaware of, but because of their "confidence " wether a bit misplaced or not, these guys come out on top when it comes to the opposite sex (No pun intended) lol.

Then they're people like me, who have been humbled thoroughly throughout life and don't carry that certain "IDGAF" attitude when it comes to dealing with people, especially those we're trying to win over.

I agree with you, though. I do everything you've suggested. I workout 5-6 times a week and maintain an athletic lifestyle ( my profession demands this). Even though I don't compete anymore, I still maintain a remnant of my fighting shape.

I still aspire to accomplish personal goals, so I don't see myself as over the hill. And because I'm always willing to accept challenges, will try things I might not have considered before.

Just a bit difficult for creatures like me because I'm not attractive enough for online dating (let's face it, everyone, ladies and guys alike, are only liking for eye candy on those sites)and yet not out going enough or social enough to meet random people in a social setting.

Not the first time I've been in this situation, but because I'm not getting any younger... it could be my last, lol.

[aozer]

Originally Posted by smoosh

But see man, the honest truth is attractiveness is subjective...attractiveness runs a hell of a lot deeper than superficially, as well.

If you don't feel online dating does you justice because of what you look like in still photos, then don't waste your time on it.

I could get a lot deeper, but I want to keep it simple and straight forward. Your best bet is to maximize your potential to find an ideal significant other. This means, portray yourself how you would want an ideal significant other to portray herself. Be well groomed, work out, challenge yourself intellectually, find things that make you happy and stick to them, pick up skills and perfect them, get around to finally learning the piano you've said you've wanted to learn for years...

I don't like the phrase, "I know I'm not attractive." Because the truth is ANYONE can be attractive if they maximize their potential. If you have a charm to you, or if you're wicked smart, or outrageously funny, or unusually caring and kind...I guaran-fucking-tee you, you will be more attractive than average. Guarantee it. If you aren't particularly good looking with facial features, height, build, etc., and nothing else stands out about you like humor, wit, kindness ...then yes, you'll never be attractive...but it's because you haven't maximized your potential, not because you just inherently don't have "those" genes.

Anyone can be funny, witty, caring, etc. The key is, find out what qualities about YOU stick out. What do you enjoy doing? What are your strengths? What do others enjoy about you?

The important thing is that you continue to better yourself every single day. Every day when you wake up, the first thing on your mind should be, "How can I improve myself today?" When you have this mindset, that'll be the first step towards maximizing your potential. The next step is to actually DO those things.

Don't care about whether this bitch or that bitch finds you attractive. Don't care. Fuck 'em all. Your only objective is, how can you be the best version of yourself? And in your pursuit of becoming the best version of yourself, I promise you, you'll attract the most attractive women. And only THEN will you realize that attractiveness runs deeper than superficially.

It's a lot of work - finding out what your weaknesses are and flipping them into your strengths - but it's the ones who DO flip their weaknesses into their strengths that succeed most in life, not just in relationships, but everything else.

yea, but with online dating it basically all comes down to what you look like.

if they see your profile pic and arent attracted to you, its an instant left swipe. sucks but its just the way it is.

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by Samurai of 2day

very well said, and I truly appreciate the time you put into your reply.

You're right, of course. I've seen it many times over the years. Guys that are typical douche bags (comes with the profession) have beautiful wives... and or nice girlfriends their wives have either accepted or are unaware of, but because of their "confidence " wether a bit misplaced or not, these guys come out on top when it comes to the opposite sex (No pun intended) lol.

Then they're people like me, who have been humbled thoroughly throughout life and don't carry that certain "IDGAF" attitude when it comes to dealing with people, especially those we're trying to win over.

I agree with you, though. I do everything you've suggested. I workout 5-6 times a week and maintain an athletic lifestyle ( my profession demands this). Even though I don't compete anymore, I still maintain a remnant of my fighting shape.

I still aspire to accomplish personal goals, so I don't see myself as over the hill. And because I'm always willing to accept challenges, will try things I might not have considered before.

Just a bit difficult for creatures like me because I'm not attractive enough for online dating (let's face it, everyone, ladies and guys alike, are only liking for eye candy on those sites)and yet not out going enough or social enough to meet random people in a social setting.

Not the first time I've been in this situation, but because I'm not getting any younger... it could be my last, lol.

It sounds to me like you actually WANT to be one of the guys who'd get like a 90% swipe rate on Tinder. Why would anyone want to be one of those guys?

Yes, they may be good looking. Sure. But how incredibly self-absorbed do you think they are? And selfish? Egocentric? God complex?

Trust me, you don't want to be one of those guys, Samurai...

I recently met a chick at a house party, thought she was cute, grabbed her number. In talking to her, I learned she used to be an avid user on Tinder. Pretty big setback, because I already knew what her deeper personality was gonna be like; shitty. She was also pretty attractive, I could see her getting a high swipe rate.

So despite that, I decided to take her out on a date, just for the hell of it. I told her we're going to the Aquarium, so dress appropriately. Now, anyone who's been to an Aquarium knows its a hotspot for young kids / new parents. Like, 7 and under..

Samurai...you would not believe my eyes when I saw this bitch come strolling up to my car to take her to the Aquarium (and recognize she was 25 mins late getting out of her apartment...). She has on a slutty ass shirt, massive titties dangling out, pants with her vagina imprint in plain view, and some stripper shoes you see in 60s pornos. Good Lord. So we go to the Aquarium, and holy fuck, the looks that I was getting walking with this chick who looked like she just straight walked out of a night club...I even heard one little kid say to his mom, "Mommy! Why are her's bigger than yours??" (Pointing at her tits hanging out from her shirt...). Needless to say, Mommy was not happy...

You can't take these Tinder bitches anywhere man...

Trust me Samurai, you don't want to be like them. They have zero personality, are too self-absorbed. The ideal girl isn't on Tinder or Bumble...she's at your local mom and pop coffee shop, working on succeeding in her career...

Just be patient, and all things will fall into place as they should...

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by aozer

yea, but with online dating it basically all comes down to what you look like.

if they see your profile pic and arent attracted to you, its an instant left swipe. sucks but its just the way it is.

I don't disagree. What I'm saying is so sensible human being with an ounce of self-esteem and respect for oneself should be on those apps...

90% of them are on there for the ego boosts, cause they have their own set of emotional issues...

[Samurai of 2day]

Originally Posted by smoosh

It sounds to me like you actually WANT to be one of the guys who'd get like a 90% swipe rate on Tinder. Why would anyone want to be one of those guys?

Yes, they may be good looking. Sure. But how incredibly self-absorbed do you think they are? And selfish? Egocentric? God complex?

Trust me, you don't want to be one of those guys, Samurai...

I recently met a chick at a house party, thought she was cute, grabbed her number. In talking to her, I learned she used to be an avid user on Tinder. Pretty big setback, because I already knew what her deeper personality was gonna be like; shitty. She was also pretty attractive, I could see her getting a high swipe rate.

So despite that, I decided to take her out on a date, just for the hell of it. I told her we're going to the Aquarium, so dress appropriately. Now, anyone who's been to an Aquarium knows its a hotspot for young kids / new parents. Like, 7 and under..

Samurai...you would not believe my eyes when I saw this bitch come strolling up to my car to take her to the Aquarium (and recognize she was 25 mins late getting out of her apartment...). She has on a slutty ass shirt, massive titties dangling out, pants with her vagina imprint in plain view, and some stripper shoes you see in 60s pornos. Good Lord. So we go to the Aquarium, and holy fuck, the looks that I was getting walking with this chick who looked like she just straight walked out of a night club...I even heard one little kid say to his mom, "Mommy! Why are her's bigger than yours??" (Pointing at her tits hanging out from her shirt...). Needless to say, Mommy was not happy...

You can't take these Tinder bitches anywhere man...

Trust me Samurai, you don't want to be like them. They have zero personality, are too self-absorbed. The ideal girl isn't on Tinder or Bumble...she's at your local mom and pop coffee shop, working on succeeding in his career...

Just be patient, and all things will fall into place as they should...

You are absolutely right, my man.

I don't care about quantity of likes or swipes or anything else superficial like that.

Just would like to be appreciated by a beauitiful and down to earth, independent woman for who I am or what I bring to the table, without having to deal with an attention thirsty girl who needs those things mentioned above for validation.

Thought I should give online dating a try today before I had to put up a pic... then realized that this wouldn't work for me either in the long run, lol

[bimmette]

@Samurai of 2day Uh, what are you talking about? I recalled that you were a fit, good-looking guy when I did your video interview here on OT. I just went back to check and I was right. Put up some nice pics and write a witty little bio in your profile and I am positive you'll have girls interested.

[CTinline-six]

Online dating is garbage, because it doesn't allow true attraction to occur, only superficial attraction. Many women find online dating to be worse than men do (imagine that) because they have the opposite problem. My friend told me Tinder and other apps are a nightmare for her. Picture getting 1000 messages from random people ranging from "hey" to creepy 4 page stories and you know nothing about these people. It becomes overwhelming for them, and many either give up or resort to just picking the most attractive one they match with, often with a bad result.


Meet people in real life. Approach strangers for a quick chat, do things that will boost your confidence with women. Women admire confidence, and that is no secret. I'm not a model, and I'm well aware of that. I do work out when I can, and maintain good hygiene. My chances of catching someone's eye are 100x higher in person, because I can be loud, funny and outgoing. None of that can really be accurately represented through 5 pictures on Tinder taken with a smart phone. Attraction is very different for men and women. Men are very physical, so apps with pictures of women work well for us. For women it is emotional and intellectual as well as physical. Attraction may catch their eye, but confidence and emotion is what draws them in.

Contrary to popular belief, being a douche does not get you women. The confidence they have does. Being a good guy and having confidence is even more attractive to them. You can walk into a room and have everyone's attention without being a douche bag. My style is comedy. If you can walk into a room and make everyone laugh, the over confident douche bag suddenly goes unnoticed.

Fake it until you make it is a real thing. If you can get really good at faking confidence, actually having it will come easier. In college I was the 5'10 skinny guy who commuted to class and knew nobody. I was able to fake the confidence until it came naturally. The "you lose every shot you don't take" statement is really true. I walked up to one of the hottest girls in the class who was way out of my league and made her laugh. A week later SHE asked ME out and we dated for a few months. You have nothing to lose if you don't try, as silly as that sounds it is often very true.

[Samurai of 2day]

Originally Posted by bimmette

@Samurai of 2day Uh, what are you talking about? I recalled that you were a fit, good-looking guy when I did your video interview here on OT. I just went back to check and I was right. Put up some nice pics and write a witty little bio in your profile and I am positive you'll have girls interested.

Thank you, Tara.

That means a lot, coming from you, honestly.

As a genuinely good looking woman, who had a naturally positive and pleasant personality, coupled with a unique affinity for subjects usually reserved for the guys, I'm sure you have guys falling at your feet and offering you everything from coffee, to dinner, to boats, lol.

It's probably so easy for you to filter through the masses and then pick one who genuinely piques your interest. Some of us don't have it so easy, lol.

Maybe I can try again to take a pic tomorrow in a different light or something, then build up the courage to try the profile building again.

Maybe online dating isn't for me on the other hand. I always found it funny about myself, that I can be so brave and or adventurous when it comes to most things... but when it comes to dealing with women I can still get all nervous and apprehensive, depending on the level of attraction I have towards her, lol.

If my next attempt to build a profile is a success, I will definitely post a general write up of the experience that follows and share with my Bimmer family!

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

I say these two should bang and be the Bimmerpost couple ^^

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by Samurai of 2day

Thank you, Tara.

That means a lot, coming from you, honestly.

As a genuinely good looking woman, who had a naturally positive and pleasant personality, coupled with a unique affinity for subjects usually reserved for the guys, I'm sure you have guys falling at your feet and offering you everything from coffee, to dinner, to boats, lol.

It's probably so easy for you to filter through the masses and then pick one who genuinely piques your interest. Some of us don't have it so easy, lol.

Maybe I can try again to take a pic tomorrow in a different light or something, then build up the courage to try the profile building again.

Maybe online dating isn't for me on the other hand. I always found it funny about myself, that I can be so brave and or adventurous when it comes to most things... but when it comes to dealing with women I can still get all nervous and apprehensive, depending on the level of attraction I have towards her, lol.

If my next attempt to build a profile is a success, I will definitely post a general write up of the experience that follows and share with my Bimmer family!

Nope, no one approaches me in person and I'm not currently online dating. I do get messages on social media from far away but I don't have any interest in that. I'm currently content and am not putting any effort into dating. My life is pretty drama-free at the moment and it's nice.