Tinder/Dating Apps

[Alfisti]

Broad ruule of thumb, women are worried the man is a potential loser and men are worried they woman is crazy. You can see it playing out here in this thread.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Watching The World Burn

Be interesting to hear what the women say about the single men. I'm sure they say basically the exact same thing "Oh well, that's why he's single"...it's just the "why" I'm curious about. I'm certain its on both ends though.

Dating just sounds like a complete clown show these days. Am so glad to be married.

Yeah I don't know. Im guessing the narrative is I ghosted them but I did state I was no longer pursuing any form of relationship and why.

As far as "why they are single" some were somewhat new to Atlanta (at least within the past two years, etc.) And, of course, divorce.

Ive got another one tentatively for tomorrow evening, again she seems cool and grounded in chat. She has lived here for years but splits time between ATL and NYC. So we shall see what sort of trauma she is running from.

Maybe I should do an experiment and go for the younger ones with the vapid ass profiles and compare...

[Watching The World Burn]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Maybe I should do an experiment and go for the younger ones with the vapid ass profiles and compare...

Do it! Leonardo DiCaprio could benefit from a little competition for that age pool. And you two are roughly the same age...hey, look at that, has to be a new nickname for you somewhere in all this if you go after that age group...

[m3rcliess]

Originally Posted by Watching The World Burn

Be interesting to hear what the women say about the single men. I'm sure they say basically the exact same thing "Oh well, that's why he's single"...it's just the "why" I'm curious about. I'm certain its on both ends though.

Dating just sounds like a complete clown show these days. Am so glad to be married.

The dating world is in shambles on both sides. I was single for 5 years before getting into the relationship I'm in now and I think the biggest "theme" I experienced was just overall lack of commitment. Everything was too casual - could be "dating" for months but never fully committed to me. I don't know if that was a me thing or a men thing. I've been told I'm intimidating by more than one past situationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also, funny enough I have been catfished by men more than once 😂

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Watching The World Burn

Do it! Leonardo DiCaprio could benefit from a little competition for that age pool. And you two are roughly the same age...hey, look at that, has to be a new nickname for you somewhere in all this if you go after that age group...

I dont own a yacht though. I think it would be easier if your ONLY criteria is they look good on the bow topless in the med.

Right now Im split between a sex positive woman and one that seems like she would be a good drinking buddy. Might just enjoy this black hole for a bit and reboot later.

[Germanauto]

Welp guys and gals, went out with 3 different babes in the past 6 weeks and have been rejected by all of them. All went to two dates, all involved varying degrees of kissing/making out. Two texted citing lack of chemistry and one didn't even have the decency to text back and ghosted.

I keep getting kicked in the balls when I put myself back out there. Just an expensive waste of time.

Meeting up with a Milf wednesday wish me luck.

[ryan stewart]

Its been going well for me other than the eventually turn into madness. But as far as success Id say bumble works.

[Alfisti]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

Welp guys and gals, went out with 3 different babes in the past 6 weeks and have been rejected by all of them. All went to two dates, all involved varying degrees of kissing/making out. Two texted citing lack of chemistry and one didn't even have the decency to text back and ghosted.

I keep getting kicked in the balls when I put myself back out there. Just an expensive waste of time.

Meeting up with a Milf wednesday wish me luck.

If I may suggest, back in the day it was far harder to get together so a) one was rejected less often and b) people were likely more inclined to be less picky because ...well.... it was hard to meet people.

Every half decent looking young woman now has a date at the swipe of her finger, they're gonna get picky, don't take it personally. The wheel turns as they age and men can start picking and choosing, women have a short shelf life but when young can pick and choose, it is what it is.

[ASAP]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

Welp guys and gals, went out with 3 different babes in the past 6 weeks and have been rejected by all of them. All went to two dates, all involved varying degrees of kissing/making out. Two texted citing lack of chemistry and one didn't even have the decency to text back and ghosted.

I keep getting kicked in the balls when I put myself back out there. Just an expensive waste of time.

Meeting up with a Milf wednesday wish me luck.

dude this is simply online dating as i've stated above... the girls have TOO much choice...99% sure it's not you... they just think there is something always better out there... which is why it's best just to meet girls in real life instead

a lot of these chicks that do this will probably soon hit over 40 and be single forever...

i heard some girl say they went on 75 dates on bumble and another say they get 2-3 dates a week... i was like, umm... i think I know what the problem here may be

[Alfisti]

Originally Posted by ASAP

i heard some girl say they went on 75 dates on bumble and another say they get 2-3 dates a week... i was like, umm... i think I know what the problem here may be

Gonna be like throwing a frankfurt down a hallway by the time they are mid 20's with that many dates.

[ryan stewart]

Man, yall must hang out with some trashy people.

I got another "Date" lined up but Im not a hotdog down a hallway or spending tons of money. I always meet for a beer or coffee first (or in the case of a couple I didnt get anything). I basically told anyone Ive been talking to that I need to see your face first before I commit to shit. The main one I am talking to now seems a bit different in so much as she isnt throwing herself at me from the get, I think that was the red flag I was falling for.

As far as online vs "the good ole days" I don't know if anything has really changed a ton other than the sheer volume (on both sides). Unless you were setup or had a common friend group with someone when you approached someone at a bar, restaurant, club, show, public restroom, whatever you were basically "swiping right" on them thinking "Hmm, I could fuck this person" and (if single) if they accepted they were basically "swiping right" as well. And even then men were expected to do the pursuing and the younger/more attractive people were spoiled for choice.

[Germanauto]

Originally Posted by ASAP

dude this is simply online dating as i've stated above... the girls have TOO much choice...99% sure it's not you... they just think there is something always better out there... which is why it's best just to meet girls in real life instead

a lot of these chicks that do this will probably soon hit over 40 and be single forever...

i heard some girl say they went on 75 dates on bumble and another say they get 2-3 dates a week... i was like, umm... i think I know what the problem here may be

Yup I know why this is happening but it still sucks every time. Once I met a chick who proudly stated I was the 5th guy she met that week. Immediately knew I was just being used as a credit card for an evening out.

As far as meeting women in real life. Between bars and the occasional grocery store/beach approach I've gotten many numbers over the years, but even those seldom lead to dates.

[ASAP]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Man, yall must hang out with some trashy people.

I got another "Date" lined up but Im not a hotdog down a hallway or spending tons of money. I always meet for a beer or coffee first (or in the case of a couple I didnt get anything). I basically told anyone Ive been talking to that I need to see your face first before I commit to shit. The main one I am talking to now seems a bit different in so much as she isnt throwing herself at me from the get, I think that was the red flag I was falling for.

As far as online vs "the good ole days" I don't know if anything has really changed a ton other than the sheer volume (on both sides). Unless you were setup or had a common friend group with someone when you approached someone at a bar, restaurant, club, show, public restroom, whatever you were basically "swiping right" on them thinking "Hmm, I could fuck this person" and (if single) if they accepted they were basically "swiping right" as well. And even then men were expected to do the pursuing and the younger/more attractive people were spoiled for choice.

atlanta may just be a better area for normal women...

the alpha cities like nyc, la and miami are super tough

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by ASAP

atlanta may just be a better area for normal women...

the alpha cities like nyc, la and miami are super tough

Eh, I don't know if I'd go that far. It's pretty difficult here too. There's a LOT of inauthenticity in Atlanta.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by ASAP

atlanta may just be a better area for normal women...

the alpha cities like nyc, la and miami are super tough

I doubt it, Id be curious who youre picking. My buddies are constantly bitching about getting catfished, chicks using them for free meals, etc.

Im pretty selective and, dunno, maybe good at spotting a bullshitter. I wont fuck with empty profiles with no pics, I can spot facetune a mile away (also no body shots = fat, sorry but no I put athlete in my profile and its like putting "faith" in there) you better be able to manage some convo once we match, coffee or a beer first, etc.

Probably 1 in 8 actually holds a conversation well enough to meet admittedly, Im not out here pulling teeth. But all of the ones I met we immediately traded cell #s and they wanted to do stuff together.

So far my only issue is them asking for exclusivity and then immediately going nuts. . Im def pushing back on that now and sticking with multi-dating (and being up front about it) for the moment, slowing things down.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

So far my only issue is them asking for exclusivity and then immediately going nuts. . Im def pushing back on that now and sticking with multi-dating (and being up front about it) for the moment, slowing things down.

How far along into a dating situation are they asking for exclusivity?

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

How far along into a dating situation are they asking for exclusivity?

One was a few weeks but it was hot and heavy. I'm not really foreign to it since I've always been in a relationship and not really into multi-dating but obviously gotta take more time to vet them before I cut others off, etc.

I had one basically throw herself on me first night and was blowing me up the next day, could tell she was rebounding from a divorce. I bailed.

Im stepping away from the app for a bit. I have enough to keep me busy for a bit and can focus on a few. Im really hoping this one comes back from California soon (had to go back for some family stuff) because she seemed cool and fit as fuck.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

One was a few weeks but it was hot and heavy. I'm not really foreign to it since I've always been in a relationship and not really into multi-dating but obviously gotta take more time to vet them before I cut others off, etc.

I had one basically throw herself on me first night and was blowing me up the next day, could tell she was rebounding from a divorce. I bailed.

Im stepping away from the app for a bit. I have enough to keep me busy for a bit and can focus on a few. Im really hoping this one comes back from California soon (had to go back for some family stuff) because she seemed cool and fit as fuck.

Multi-dating sounds like a great time until you get into it, then you realize it's more trouble than it's worth. It's exhausting, no thanks.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Multi-dating sounds like a great time until you get into it, then you realize it's more trouble than it's worth. It's exhausting, no thanks.

Guess I should be clear, just like once a week per type thing, Im not trying to actually maintain multiple relationships, just take much longer getting serious.