Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

how many different ways have you said "vomit" i counted at least five.

anywho, slight change in plans with danyell tonight. she is going to work for a couple of hours at her second job. she wants me to come down there and then we'll have dinner there. second time i've had to cancel reservations with her tho..

I'm a firm believer in creating a colorful dialogue. It keeps things interesting for the reader. Glad you noticed. My efforts are not in vain.

I agree with Onesy on the reservations. Perhaps she just wants your time and not to be impressed. Case in point, I took the girlfriend for a fancy dinner last weekend for her birthday; first time she had ever been to a $100/plate restaurant. Although she enjoyed it, I could tell that she was uncomfortable in the setting and was slightly out of her element. She told me later that she enjoyed it and the meal was fantastic but she didn't need all that, all she wanted was to spend some time with me.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

I'm a firm believer in creating a colorful dialogue. It keeps things interesting for the reader. Glad you noticed. My efforts are not in vain.

I agree with Onesy on the reservations. Perhaps she just wants your time and not to be impressed. Case in point, I took the girlfriend for a fancy dinner last weekend for her birthday; first time she had ever been to a $100/plate restaurant. Although she enjoyed it, I could tell that she was uncomfortable in the setting and was slightly out of her element. She told me later that she enjoyed it and the meal was fantastic but she didn't need all that, all she wanted was to spend some time with me.

Exactly - reading and understanding someone's preferences and comfort level is key. My wife and I both make decent money (I think), and could certainly afford to go out to the $100/plate places if we chose. But both of us are much more comfortable in a pub. That's what we like, and so that's what we gravitate towards. We'll only go somewhere fancy for something really special, like one of our birthdays or an anniversary...but otherwise, what we enjoy and are comfortable in are pubs.

"Danyell" may very well be the same way. I still cannot get over this spelling of the name, I'm sorry. It will haunt me for a while.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Exactly - reading and understanding someone's preferences and comfort level is key. My wife and I both make decent money (I think), and could certainly afford to go out to the $100/plate places if we chose. But both of us are much more comfortable in a pub. That's what we like, and so that's what we gravitate towards. We'll only go somewhere fancy for something really special, like one of our birthdays or an anniversary...but otherwise, what we enjoy and are comfortable in are pubs.

"Danyell" may very well be the same way. I still cannot get over this spelling of the name, I'm sorry. It will haunt me for a while.

This. I make decent money for the area I live, the girlfriend does ok but also has 3 small children and doesn't get to experience things like this often. Birthdays/special occasions are ok but I personally prefer to keep things low-key. Just because I can afford to do something doesn't mean that I will. People with that type of mentality are usually those that can not afford it. I saw recently somewhere about how people with money wear jeans with holes in them and people who are poor wear Prada, Channel, etc.

I'd rather have the money in the bank that to try and project an image of being someone with a lot of money.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Agreed. Maybe she is uncomfortable going out to fancier places in the current stage of the relationship.

not at all, we have been to several high-end events/dinners

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

not at all, we have been to several high-end events/dinners

Going to and enjoying can be two different things. I go to funerals, I don't enjoy them.

Is it possible that the higher end food/wine show she basically asked you out on a date to was because she felt like this was the type of event you would enjoy / expected / were used to because you are a doctor, and NOT because it was her type of event?

Not that you would have necessarily noticed it, I'm sure she made every effort to attract you, and you her.

I'm not saying I'm right - maybe she is very comfortable in these types of settings, but if she has a kid (or more than one), my guess is she probably doesn't have the time and potentially the means to do high class events often, and therefore, is likely less comfortable at them.

Just a theory.

[******]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Exactly - reading and understanding someone's preferences and comfort level is key. My wife and I both make decent money (I think), and could certainly afford to go out to the $100/plate places if we chose. But both of us are much more comfortable in a pub. That's what we like, and so that's what we gravitate towards. We'll only go somewhere fancy for something really special, like one of our birthdays or an anniversary...but otherwise, what we enjoy and are comfortable in are pubs.

"Danyell" may very well be the same way. I still cannot get over this spelling of the name, I'm sorry. It will haunt me for a while.

You sound like my wife and me. We get dressed up and spend some money on our anniversary because it seems like the appropriate thing to do, but I would MUCH rather be at a pub or on the bar side of a “regular” restaurant where it’s lively and fun than having some waiter hovering around me all evening.

As for Danyell, maybe she was in a better financial situation earlier on (married) and is not unaccustomed to nicer places and is working two jobs now because of changed circumstances?

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

Attaboy! Now accompany those bruises with some red hand prints on that ass and you'll be in business.

P.S. Don't forget to pull the hair. If you don't know the proper way look that shit up.

You rang?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

You rang?

MK, I imagine that our views/experiences in this area are very closely related. I wondered when you might show up.

[Scharbag]

Jesus. And we wonder why women think men are creepy...

Perhaps we should treat women like human beings, cause, they are human beings. Just a thought.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Scharbag

Jesus. And we wonder why women think men are creepy...

Perhaps we should treat women like human beings, cause, they are human beings. Just a thought.

Curious, what are you referring to specifically? One woman can think a particular man is creepy based off her experience that man yet another woman can a completely different opinion of the same man based off her experience.

The same can be said from men regarding women.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

how many different ways have you said "vomit" i counted at least five.

anywho, slight change in plans with danyell tonight. she is going to work for a couple of hours at her second job. she wants me to come down there and then we'll have dinner there. second time i've had to cancel reservations with her tho..

she at least reschedules or gives an alternative rather than just flaking, i'd say you're still doing ok; maybe she just doesnt like dressing up for dinner?

Originally Posted by MKSixer

You rang?

show us the way please!!!! (or just tell)

Originally Posted by Scharbag

Jesus. And we wonder why women think men are creepy...

Perhaps we should treat women like human beings, cause, they are human beings. Just a thought.

do you think this is "creepy" because the boys are helping each other with women problems? because you'd be surprised how much more girls talk about this stuff...

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

This.

I'm inclined to not feed the troll but let's give him a chance

I'm with you, I'm curious as well. We are at over 100 pages on this thread and for the most part everyone has been extremely supportive of each other. Curious to hear how something on here is being viewed as creepy....aside from the psychic disgorging (6 for those counting ) cat.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Scharbag

Jesus. And we wonder why women think men are creepy...

Perhaps we should treat women like human beings, cause, they are human beings. Just a thought.

Obviously you've never overheard a group of women together talking about men.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Obviously you've never overheard a group of women together talking about men.

I'll second this. They are way nastier than one would imagine.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Scharbag

Jesus. And we wonder why women think men are creepy...

Perhaps we should treat women like human beings, cause, they are human beings. Just a thought.

my spidey senses you never been with a woman.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Bayerische Motoren Werke

she at least reschedules or gives an alternative rather than just flaking, i'd say you're still doing ok; maybe she just doesnt like dressing up for dinner?


show us the way please!!!! (or just tell)


do you think this is "creepy" because the boys are helping each other with women problems? because you'd be surprised how much more girls talk about this stuff...

I already posted it, Grasshopper.

Walk up behind her, put one hand on her waist to assist bending her over slightly.
Squeeze the other boob and then grab a good handful of hair to pull her head back.
Whisper in her ear with a husky voice...I'm just checking for later tonight.

Sound action stations. You're about get some.

You're welcome.

[******]

I’m starting to wonder if Onesy is dead and his killer has hijacked his user name...

[******]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Why

You just don’t seem like the Onesy I liked a lot.

[******]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Sorry not sorry.

But again: why

I am not privy as to the why. Sorry but not sorry confirms the what.

[******]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Use your words.

[******]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

I don't own any words... :

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[******]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Which words do I get to choose from?

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