How much are house cleaners in Tulsa? Is this a nice neighborhood? What type of people will my neighbors be?
https://www.redfin.com/OK/Tulsa/9649.../home/74244818
Was going to say San Diego isn't priced that bad. Then, I recall driving through a pretty rough area only to find out the housing is mind blowing.
Where in San Diego is your job, OP? If it's in a suburb, then that totally changes things.
There are always pockets of affordability in most metro areas. One doesn't need to commute 1.5 hours each way to live comfortably. If so, maybe they need to check their levels of comfort, haha.